How to Execute your “Someday When” Project – ep 73

Mostafa Hosseini  0:02 

Welcome to daily confidence for entrepreneurs. My name is Mostafa Hosseini. In this episode, we’re going to talk about how to take care of your Sunday projects. These are projects that you’re waiting for the stars to align. And then all the conditions that are mad, you’re thinking of entertaining an idea or a thought of doing something.

So we’re going to talk about that. And we’re going to talk about the reasons behind why we procrastinate and all these ideas. And so next, we’re gonna talk about simple ways for you to take actions, so you can see results. Today, the topic is how to jumpstart your Sunday one projects, and my guest is Kristin Swanson. Welcome, Kristin.

Hi, thanks. Great to see you. Great to have you. So let me do the proper introduction. And before that, make sure you if you’re watching or you’re listening, please make sure you’re like and subscribe to the channel, whichever channel you’re watching through. If you have any questions, please add them as a comment.

And if you have any friends that could benefit from this topic, which we all have those friends who are waiting for the perfect moment to take action, tag them as a for as a as a in a comment on social media. And or if you’re watching or listening to the podcast, send them the podcast and have them listen to this. So let me do the proper introduction for Kristin and then we’re going to dive into a very interesting and much needed conversation. Kristin Swanson helped thought leaders execute their Sunday when procrastinated projects with ease.

As a breast cancer survivor and coaches Institute trained coach Kristen has learned the importance of getting out of one’s own way and stop waiting until someday to make a unique impact. Realizing deeply that you only live once she has gained perspective tools and strategies to overcome the illusions. The illusions illusions fear instills in us. Welcome, Kristen.

Kristin Swanson  2:10 

Thank you.

Mostafa Hosseini  2:11 

How’s your day going? So far?

Kristin Swanson  2:14 

It’s going great.

Mostafa Hosseini  2:16 

So where do you log in from?

Kristin Swanson  2:19 

I am in sunny Seattle today, which is wonderful.

Mostafa Hosseini  2:24 

Love it on the West Coast. That’s amazing. So let’s dive into it. Kristen, tell us about your story. What is your story?

Kristin Swanson  2:31 

Yes. So I am a coach. And I got my coach training back in 2008. And I was doing just straight up like business coaching back then. And then the 2009 recession hit and my husband and I were both self employed. And I ended up turning my biggest client into a part time job. And because I wanted to stable income, I had young kids, I had all kinds of reasons why that was the right thing to do at the time. And then I ended up not leaving that job for eight years.

And my business became my someday when project and then you know, the reasons of needing to be home with young kids kind of that was the reason to wait to relaunch my business back then then turned into as a breast cancer survivor, the new excuse or story of the fact that I needed to have that health insurance, you know, so I became really aware of like, all of the excuses that we tell ourselves, and after the cancer was able to learn how to move through the fear.

And now I coach others to do the same thing and stop putting things off. We might not have a Sunday, so I don’t know why we’re waiting.

Mostafa Hosseini  3:42 

Love it. It’s really important. I think a lot of people, most of us have a list of those Sunday projects. And we’re like waiting for the perfect moment and or in a perfect condition to happen so that we could do it. So this is really interesting. So tell us about what you do. It is days and who do you serve?

Kristin Swanson  4:04 

Yeah, so I work primarily with thought leaders and some clients call me a completion expert helping them those who have that urgency to turn their Sunday when project into reality. So that’s what I do help them start taking consistent action so that they can see this as reality in their work.

Mostafa Hosseini  4:23 

Very interesting. Good. So tell us about what is a Sunday when project what’s your definition?

Kristin Swanson  4:31 

Yeah, so it is something that we are putting off into the future. So what it sounds like it’s something like that someday when I have more time what I really want to be doing is launching a podcast. Someday when my kids are grown. I will quit my corporate job and start a business or some time when my bank account is full. I will do create an online course.

 So what I find is that the common thing is that we’re putting it off and I think So the reason why I’m putting up these are like Soul led goals that I believe were planted in you for a reason. So you they’re big. And so there’s resistance around it. So so that’s what I help people with is to move through that resistance. And that is what a Sunday when project is. So if you have something that you want to do Sunday, but you weren’t doing it yet, then you have one or two.

Mostafa Hosseini  5:21 

Very interesting. How do we go about identifying like, the Sunday one projects?

Kristin Swanson  5:29 

Yeah, so usually people know what they are. I mean, really, they know those things that they plan to do. There’s like an urge to do it. But it’s not time yet. So it’s a lot of times it starts with like the complaining. I mean, if people really don’t know what it is, it can start with the complaining like what’s not working? Okay, well, then what do you want?

What do you want instead of what’s not working is one way in? And but usually people do know what these things are?

Mostafa Hosseini  6:03 

Usually, they know and does it? Does it help to maybe write it down and or to prioritize what? What’s important, what’s not?

Kristin Swanson  6:14 

Yeah, I think it absolutely helps write it down. It absolutely helps to say it out loud. Even more importantly, these things a lot of times are the things that people are afraid to even say out loud, because it’s scary. And it feels like if I say it, that I’m gonna have to follow through and do it, or I think somewhere deep down inside, we were kind of taught like not to share our dreams, because you know, they wish isn’t gonna come through or something I don’t know.

But we often resist saying it out loud. And there is just power in saying it out loud and claiming that you want to do this thing. And it doesn’t mean you have to do it overnight. But yes, put it down. And then I absolutely encourage people to write it down.

And and then I kind of take people through exercises where you, you know, you project yourself forward into the future reality of your future self who has done it, and kind of look backwards, and then you can say, what are some possible steps that I might take in order to step into that and then start taking those actions?

Mostafa Hosseini  7:15 

All right, give it can you give us the details on how that how to actually do that?

Kristin Swanson  7:20 

Yeah, yeah. So I mean, that exact that, like what I just described, is

Mostafa Hosseini  7:27 

the future and like working backwards, basically.

Kristin Swanson  7:31 

Yeah. Okay. So I mean, it’s just sort of like a meditation or in your own in your own time to close your eyes, get present, take some deep breaths, and really just project yourself forward into, after I’ve done the thing, after I’ve written the book, after I’ve watched the podcast, you know, who am I, and then just like, let those images come to you.

And if you I mean, if you go to YouTube, and just write in future self meditation, you’ll find a bunch of them write, you can just do that. And then the idea is from that future place, though, this is like the exercise. I mean, that is like a standalone, you can find that. But then what you do is ask that future self, how did you get here? Or what are some possible steps that you took to get here? And then I just take, say, Take pen and paper and just brainstorm.

And these are like possible action steps. This does not mean and I think the reason why people wait a lot of times is because they don’t have the full plan. They don’t have the full picture, how would this work, they don’t feel ready. And so it’s key to really write down just possible steps, and start taking some of those possible actions. Because even if you had the perfect plan all laid out for you in front of you, it’s probably going to change anyway.

So you don’t need to wait until you have that perfect plan to get started.

Mostafa Hosseini  8:52 

Absolutely, Scott, like someday when all the lights turn green, I’ll go to work. Yeah, they turn green at the same time. I’ll go to work. Something Yeah. So a couple of things you mentioned are worth mentioning again, is going to YouTube and looking for a future self meditation. videos on You said there was a bunch there.

And then the question is how did you get here, and then your present self will tell you your or your future self will tell you what you did and you’ll come up with ways to make things happen. Very valuable.

Kristin Swanson  9:30 

The possible what are some possible action steps I could take to get there like it makes sure that you know you’re not looking for the right perfect actions, you’re looking for some possible steps and just brain dump and don’t filter don’t like make sure they’re right before you write them down. And then circle a couple when you’re done that are just your first actions and get started.

Mostafa Hosseini  9:52 

Interesting. So let’s say people do that they talk to their future self and the future self says Mostafa, here’s what you need to do today. And then What happens in my experience with 80? Or 90 or more percent of people is they know what to do, but they don’t do it.

And they just, you know, put it off until tomorrow and they procrastinate, why do you think that happens?

Kristin Swanson  10:14 

Why did you say why?

Mostafa Hosseini  10:16 

Yeah. Why does that happen?

Kristin Swanson  10:20 

Because this is such a big goal. Like I said, these are soul led goals. They’re big, scary goals. And it’s scary to take these actions. And so it’s just natural to like have resistance pop up. And all the excuses why I can’t do this, I don’t have the time, I don’t know exactly what step to take. I, there’s all you just the resistance comes.

And really, I believe that’s fear. And so what I like to teach people to do is almost use that as a compass. Because if you feel resistant to taking action, and you feel like it’s hard, and you’re putting it off, you’re absolutely headed in the right direction. And that is what to do. So I believe those are the things that are going to make the biggest difference in your business. And I think you know, that like deep inside. And so when you notice the resistance, and you know, as I keep putting that up that keeps going from today’s list to tomorrow’s list, that that’s a clue that you want to take that action. So I think it’s fear.

Mostafa Hosseini  11:23 

Interesting, I learned years ago that if and when I have fear or resistance, there is usually room for growth. And there’s opportunity on the other end. And if I if I’m conscious, if I’m conscious that I have fear towards something I have, I have to do it.

I like jump in. And usually there is I feel much better after. And there’s, there’s a growth, opportunity and learning opportunity on the other end. And then the same brain that is stopping me and giving me all sorts of nonsense excuses to not do it. The brain goes I told you it was great. I told you we had to do it. Right.

Kristin Swanson  12:15 

It starts Cray taking all the credit for all day for the victory. So

Mostafa Hosseini  12:22 

what is your formula? Or how do you how do you suggest people should overcome the fear of taking action? And, and, you know, getting past the fear?

Kristin Swanson  12:37 

Yeah, so I have a hard time with the word overcome, because I sometimes think I don’t know that that is overcome, I think it’s sort of like competence. I mean, you probably talk about this daily competence that it comes with the taking action, like I don’t think you can, like muster up the courage and it’s like coming from somewhere externally, and then do it, it’s like in the doing that bring confidence. So I think it’s the same thing with the fear.

And so my biggest thing is learning how to manage your emotions and to move through your emotions, and to calm down the nervous system. And remind yourself that this is just an email that you’re sending, you’re just hitting post on a post on your social media or whatever it it’s not a tiger, like I mean, you know, we kind of have that brain fight or flight thing that happens, and calm yourself down.

And then and continue to take the action so so whether that’s like deep breathing, or sometimes I have people like journal out there limiting beliefs, like what are the thoughts that are popping into your head when when you sit down to do that thing? What are you telling yourself and getting those out. And sometimes I also encourage people to reach out to other like minded entrepreneurs or friends and just get support because this shame that we feel about not doing it, it doesn’t really do well on its own.

 So it’s helpful to share it with somebody else, you know, you can say, this is the story I’m telling myself right now, you know, and just like ask for feedback. And usually just even the fact that you said it out loud is gonna help. So learning to manage your emotions and knowing that emotions are temporary and they will pass. So if you watch kind of the fear come up and the feelings come up and you do the deep breathing or whatever you need to do to get through it. And then you take the action I definitely am a big proponent.

 I’m a big like, chunk it down, make a small action, take the action and then notice the feeling on the other side of it. That okay, that did pass. It’s gone. Now the fear is gone. Now. You know, I’m okay again, and just keep going.

Mostafa Hosseini  14:45 

Love it. Love it. Love it. So some of the things that you just mentioned is for a gang if you’re watching or listening as write down what are my limiting beliefs about what you’re trying to do right now? I’ve actually done In that, and and if you’re not sure what the answer is, ask yourself the question, stay quiet.

And your mind will tell you, I think I have a fear of that this might happen. I might be, I might get embarrassed, people might laugh at me, I might not reach the goal or whatever the limiting belief is where I don’t have the equipment and the knowledge and skill and whatnot, then you need to calm down. What’s the best way to actually calm down before I go through the rest of the list?

Kristin Swanson  15:31 

I mean, really, deep breathing is my favorite technique. I also am a big believer in EFT tapping. Are you familiar with that? Emotional Freedom Technique?

Mostafa Hosseini  15:43 

Ah, no, I don’t know.

Kristin Swanson  15:47 

That’s another one. So I don’t know all of the again, this is like a you can just YouTube it type of situation. But it’s like tapping on pressure points. There’s different pressure points that you can tap on, as you say, some of these limiting beliefs. And I don’t know, it’s magic to me. I don’t know the ins and outs of it. But it helps you move through and helps calm down the nervous system. It stands for emotional freedom, technique, technique, but just EFT tapping is what it’s called.

So that’s another one journal, calming yourself down. I mean, even that, that journaling out the limiting beliefs will help meditation, I mean, I also recommend sort of a regular mindfulness or meditation practice, because when you are in that place of somebody who regularly practices mindfulness, you’re gonna note you, you are more an observer of your thoughts than being like I am my thoughts, you know, you kind of notice a difference between, I can observe that that’s a story. I’m telling myself, right. So and I love those examples that you gave, and it sounds a little bit like I am not I am I’m not ready yet. I am not good enough. Those kinds of thoughts. Yeah,

Mostafa Hosseini  16:55 

absolutely. Yeah, if you’re going, I’ve done tapping. And there’s a guy named Brad Yates, he has a bunch of videos I’ve done on the site, he has different videos on different problems and different issues. So they go in and he taps the energy centers in your body and straight here, right there. And in your forehead and in your chest.

And I think on your wrist as well, if I’m not mistaken. And it was actually really good. Yeah, somewhere here. I did like a year ago or so. But it was good. I was talking to a psychologist and she she’s sharing Grosman. She, she suggested that I should take try this. And I did and it was good. And yeah, gang, if you’re watching or listening, if you have any questions about your Sunday one projects for Kristin, please put them in the comments.

And I’ll make sure that we’ll cover it. So some of the other stuff that we talked about the Christmas should suggest that was reaching out to other like minded entrepreneurs, or other like minded people are coaches and ask for help, and ask for feedback and have them help you. And I’m just going to add to that, that open up and be vulnerable and receive help. Because that’s going to make life a lot easier.

And and there is no reason there is no there’s no embarrassment in asking for help. It’s and it’s a lot more embarrassing. When you don’t get what you want. Right? What’s your take on that?

Kristin Swanson  18:34 

That it’s more embarrassing that you don’t get what you will Yeah, because you’re you’re you’re gonna It’s like the disappointment in yourself. There’s the regret, there’s something I call it productivity shame, where use your head hits the pillow every night. And you are you’re just feel bad about yourself that you haven’t spent your time where you want to spend your time.

So So there’s something about like being integrity with what you want, and where you want to spend your time and what you want to prioritize that I think helps with that. And I and there is something about I don’t know if it’s entrepreneurs in general, but I think there is a, I want to do this alone. Like I’m an I should know all of the answers, I don’t need to reach out for help.

And I don’t think that the reach out for help is like, what somebody says back to is going to be exactly what you do. I mean, that’s really not the point. The point is to get it out and like shine a light on it, because as soon as you get out, it starts to dissipate. And yes, they might give you like a little piece of feedback.

And maybe you tell somebody else to and they give you a little piece of feedback. And together you kind of connect the dots and the next step starts to unfold before you and you start to like notice some patterns and it just helps you we don’t we really aren’t like designed to do this alone. But sometimes we try to and it’s like a muscle that you’re developing asking for help. I find a lot of people have to really Practice that in order to learn how to ask for help.

Mostafa Hosseini  20:05 

Absolutely. What do you how do you think COVID has affected people with this whole Sunday when project over the past couple of years or so?

Kristin Swanson  20:19 

Well, in, in my experience, it’s helped a little bit because I think it is sort of people have woken up a little bit to like, Oh, I’m not happy with what I’m doing. I don’t know if that’s because we were kind of home with ourselves long enough to like, realize it or if, or if, I don’t know, but But I noticed a little bit more of an urgency to like, let’s do this, and maybe now might be the right time.

And maybe that’s because some people have left their jobs and things like that, and are getting creative about what they’re doing. But that’s my experience. And if they think it can also turn into one of those, you know, like I was saying, like, my first reason for not leaving my job with my kids. And then it turned into like, I needed the health insurance. Well, the COVID thing is also, you know, definitely like, well, I need to during this time have it turned into another excuse, in some ways as well, for sure.

Mostafa Hosseini  21:16 

Absolutely. Absolutely. Monica says when we speak about what we want to create, we start the process of making it real. And I just actually I had a question about that you said to speak it out loud? Basically, is that is that speaking out loud to yourself or to other people? Or what

Kristin Swanson  21:36 

can I say to other people, because I believe exactly what Monica is saying here. As soon as you say it out loud, like I don’t know, something happens. And it feels like there’s like movement in the right direction, you start to notice things that you know, lead you on the right path. But some people are not ready to speak it out loud. So I completely understand that.

So I say if you’re not ready to speak it out loud, then just speak it to yourself. And whether that’s like writing in a journal or you know, journaling about it or something. Start with yourself. Sometimes you do have to start with yourself.

Mostafa Hosseini  22:08 

Absolutely. And if you asked me, I would say, if you’re afraid to speak it out loud, you should definitely speak it out loud. There is something out there. There’s some girls out there that look, I’ll give you a perfect example today. I had a question about about my goal sheet. And then I had a goal that I didn’t reach by the deadline. And so I was thinking, What do I do with this deadline? Do I just keep moving the deadline until I get there and I wasn’t sure what to do.

So I went out to this Bob Proctor group. There’s like 1000s of people in there. And actually, probably a few 1000 of them actually know me. And I’m like, and then the fear came in? What if it’s a stupid question, what do people think about this question? Bla bla, bla, bla, bla, bla, and then I’m like, shut up. Mustafa. Press Send. Bam, I press send. And, and then I’m like, like I said earlier, the brain goes, Oh, I know how to do. That. Yeah. And so I had a question.

Kristin Swanson  23:14 

Did you get responses that helped you?

Mostafa Hosseini  23:17 

I think Paul says, waiting for approval. But I don’t know, I’ll get responses because I have a few circles. So I’ll reach out to people and ask. And because this is something

Kristin Swanson  23:28 

that you said it out loud, though. I mean, it doesn’t even really matter. If you get responses back that is helpful in itself. You’re like moving the energy or something? For sure.

Mostafa Hosseini  23:38 

Absolutely. I mean, I said it on all of our social media, now it’s out there out loud. You might as well. So love it when you put the word out there. And one thing I’ve noticed this, when you actually put the word out there to your friends and people that you know, they will actually reach out to help if you’re open to it, which is another amazing thing.

And if you don’t put it out there, you just, it’s like you we close the doors to get help. Have you ever had an experience like that yourself where you just delayed getting help and it just hurt more than helping?

Kristin Swanson  24:17 

Well, I what I think of is, I don’t know, I can’t think of a specific example. But what I think of is the amount of times when I did ask for help and the answer and the help that came to support me it was something I never would have even thought to ask for. So I think when you don’t ask for the help you don’t eat or you don’t even say out loud what you’re struggling with moreso I mean maybe that’s actually what it is saying out loud what you struggle with.

And you never know who is going to how people are going to show up to support you. I do so I have a story where where I had shared after my surgeries with the breast cancer. I was really struggling With looking in the mirror, and I had just I shared that with one of my girlfriends, I just shared the fact that it was hard.

And then the next week, my mirror was like covered in inspirational quotes, and just mantras and like affirmations and all of these things that like had I not told that girl and that girl actually lives in LA, not by me, but she had somehow got word to my friends here in Seattle. And that support got me through. Like, I don’t know if I could have done it without that. And so that’s what I mean. Like, you don’t even need to know what you’re asking for. I wasn’t asking for that. I just was sharing what I was struggling with.

Mostafa Hosseini  25:36 

Do you mostly work with men or women?

Kristin Swanson  25:40 

Mostly women, but I also have men clients. Yeah, but mostly women?

Mostafa Hosseini  25:44 

Yeah. Because I think women are much better at opening up to receive help than men are generally. Okay? Because women, you would just reach out to your girlfriends, I’d be like, Hey, I have this issue. And you guys open up and talk about it. But men, it’s just the, I think the nature of men, that they tried to fix things on their own. And a lot of us reach out, either when it’s too late or never.

But generally women are more what do you have to say to men who are not very open in receiving help and opening up? Who have a lot of someday when projects on their list?

Kristin Swanson  26:32 

Yeah, I say find those people that you feel like you can talk to because they have to. That’s why I say like minded people, they have to be the right people. And sometimes it’s not the closest people to you. So you might tell your loved ones that you feel like the closest people to you. And that sometimes backfires. Right, like they want to keep you safe.

And so they don’t, they’re not as supportive sometimes, you know, and I think that’s like a subconscious thing. But yeah, so find other entrepreneurial, like minded friends and support system or mentors.

And just, I mean, I don’t think you have to start by like sharing all your dreams, you can start by just building a relationship, and opening up these conversations, like, you know, asking how somebody got where they are, maybe somebody has done something, maybe one of your Sunday wind projects is, you know, I’m just thinking of like somebody recently told me it’s like to create an online course. And just find somebody who’s done that, and, and then just like, talk to him about how they got there. It doesn’t need to be outing, I call it outing yourself, when you have that shame and limiting belief thing. You have to start there start with relationship building. And building rapport. Interesting.

Mostafa Hosseini  27:53 

Very interesting. You know, this morning.

Kristin Swanson  27:58 

I have one other thing about, about the men question i There is something about like, I don’t know if it’s exercise or movement, like definitely like making sure to insert that into your day, to help get some of these thoughts going to, because moving your energy is another way to process some of this stuff.

Mostafa Hosseini  28:22 

Absolutely, and I think a lot of stuff. Speaking from energy, if we don’t do it, and it turns to anxiety or frustration, it actually becomes a stress and it hurts us. And it might turn into back pain, neck pain, and the rest of it. This morning, as I was taught, as I was thinking and getting ready for this show, one of my Sunday wind projects is to actually move close to my parents, so I can stay with them and hang out with them and help them and do all of that. Right?

And I was like, I gotta get this going. Because I might, I might wake up tomorrow and I get the bad news saying, Say my dad is not around anymore. And that’s going to turn into a life lifelong regret. And so I was thinking about that, I was like, Okay, I gotta get this going. I gotta, I gotta move.

Kristin Swanson  29:17 

Right? And and you can start small, like, could you you know, start with visiting more often or start with starting to explore places to live as you take vacations, you know, just like start small. I think that’s the biggest thing.

Mostafa Hosseini  29:32 

I actually one of my solutions was to start, like, booked my tickets for Christmas, like basically from now. So that I know, here’s the plan. I’m gonna go visit my parents and spend some like a month with them and be with them. Yeah, I like that. Interesting. This is a huge topic and it’s a big big issue and a lot of people have huge projects and, and, and we procrastinate on that So

Kristin Swanson  30:03 

I think I think you’ve really done it when you said the regret, though, I think there’s something there that you would regret it. So if people are, you know, wondering what it is for them like, what if tomorrow was your last day? Like, what would you regret that you hadn’t done yet? Is a good question to ask?

Mostafa Hosseini  30:18 

Absolutely. If today was my last day, what would I regret the most? Hmm. Very, very interesting. Another great question to add to the list. Today was Love was my last day. What would I regret the most, and then you just one time, I guess, do that whatever you wish you would have done. Or take a small, don’t make it a big project.

Kristin Swanson  30:45 

That like makes me think of a bucket list. And it’s different than that. It’s more like take a small step, or, you know, take continuous small steps. So like, you know, your Christmas trip, and maybe it’s quarterly trips, or it’s a Christmas trip, and then I decide on the Christmas trip when my next visit is and book it then you know, just continue because there’s also something about like, tape can the compound effect of continuous action? That is powerful?

Mostafa Hosseini  31:13 

Absolutely. Here’s another regret item for me. Because since we’re talking about speaking out loud, my uncle passed away last week. And one of the things that I regret now is the fact that I did not spend enough time with him. Right? And now we’re like, Alright, so with the remaining people, I want to try my best to at least call them at least get to stay in touch with them. Because once they’re gone, they’re gone. Right? Yeah. There is no chance. Yeah, right. Yeah.

That’s yeah. So we talked about getting overcoming the fear of getting started. Right, I think that small steps that people take, and then we forget it, and then the fear kicks back in or we get busy. What do you suggest people should do to take consistent action until they get there?

Kristin Swanson  32:11 

Yeah, so I like to, like I said, Really chunk it down into bite sized chunks. So very small steps, like one phone call, one text message, one email. And if you could do that every day, that’s amazing. If you could do it once a week, that’s also amazing, even once a month, or at least quarterly trips, like I said, so I talked about this concept of like a momentum step.

So write down what it is that you want to do, do the one thing and then before you are done, figure out what your next one is, or somehow automated, like whether that’s like an automatic reminder, I’m a big fan of like reoccurring meetings with people either on your team or you know, somebody to hold you accountable. Things that will like automate it, like bring it back to you that oh, I need to take my next step now. So that it’s consistent. And and also just like accountability partners, telling somebody it is sort of like with exercise telling buddy, I’m gonna run every day, it’s similar with I’m gonna write for 15 minutes every day or something like that.

Mostafa Hosseini  33:16 

For me, accountability partners have made a huge difference in getting things done. I mean, when you’re checking in on a weekly basis with people and and if they will give you a shot, if you don’t do what you are supposed to do, and or support you. I mean, there’s different types of support. You can push them, you can hold them accountable, you can support them, you can be there, you could listen to them and there, but the accountability partners have made a huge difference for me personally. Yeah. Yeah.

Kristin Swanson  33:47 

And it doesn’t have to be I mean, that could be over. It could be like a zoom call where you get on and like hold each other accountable, but doesn’t have to be it could be a text message. I have a lot of like Voxer groups, you know, that app where it’s like voice text, and you hold each other accountable that way. And it could you could have different accountability partners for different things. So that all of these areas are moving forward. Yeah.

Mostafa Hosseini  34:14 

Love it. So Kristin, tell us about your your gift and make it happen planner.

Kristin Swanson  34:19 

Yes, so the Megan happened planner is on my website, Kristin Swanson consulting.com. And what that will help you do is take this project and make sure that you can make it happen by breaking it down like we talked about and sort of calendaring it out and it’s like a worksheet so that you can work through what are your next steps and start to get the action happening consistently.

Mostafa Hosseini  34:44 

Love it. That’s an amazing tool. I mean, what do you write down to plan and you make it clear for yourself on what you’re going to do how you’re going to get there and you have a strategy and a step by step process. You increase your odds of reaching there by 20 Time’s actually as a matter of fact. So less than 3% of people have a clear written goal.

The people that do have a clear written goal are 10 times more likely to reach their goal. If you have a step by step process to get there and a strategy, you’re now 20 times more likely to reach your goal. If you actually implement the plan, with the gift that Kristen is sharing, you’re now 40 times more likely to reach your goal. And here’s the next step. If you get support and accountability along the way, on reaching your someday when plan, you are 80 times more likely to reach your goal route using Kristen’s Make It Happen planner. That’s my ADX ninja trick for reaching her someday when projects so go there, download go to Kristin Swanson, consulting.com.

And Kristin swans Swan, I’m going to quickly spell it out k r i s t i n, s w a n s. O N consulting.com. And the link is going to be in the descriptions of the show and in the comments. as well. Very, very interesting. This is a this is an emotional conversation. For a lot of people. It is emotional for me, and I’m guessing it’s emotional for a lot of people. Yeah, if not every now

Kristin Swanson  36:31 

and I think it’s a reason why people don’t go there. Right? Because sometimes we don’t want to feel those emotions. And I think there’s so much value in it.

Mostafa Hosseini  36:41 

Absolutely, absolutely. So let me ask you some personal questions. Okay. All right. So what’s a new thing that you have tried recently Christen?

Kristin Swanson  36:54 

A new thing I have to use in my personal life. I have personal,

Mostafa Hosseini  36:59 

small or big drink?

Kristin Swanson  37:04 

Sure. Yeah. Okay, so I’m gonna talk about the one that’s like very present for me right now, which is golf, because I now have back pain drying that I’m struggling with. And I think it might be because of the golf. And really all I was doing was taking a lesson every Wednesday, but I now have back pain that I just went to the chiropractor today to help with.

Mostafa Hosseini  37:25 

You tried golf? You didn’t golf vert?

Kristin Swanson  37:29 

No, I didn’t. I didn’t. So I was starting to learn. And I had gone to the course a couple times. But I was definitely like taking a lesson every Wednesday with some other ladies. And yeah, so and I want to go back to it. I totally do. But I’m kind of taking a break because the back pain.

Mostafa Hosseini  37:44 

All right. That’s fair. That’s fair. Huh? What are your top two or three favorite books that have made a massive difference in your business or life, this could be books that either you have gifted or suggested a lot, or, you know, personally, these are the books that have made a massive difference for you.

Kristin Swanson  38:05 

So the big league is my probably top one for sure. I’m the one that I get asked all the time again, you’re we were talking about this being emotional, I gift a time to grieve a lot. And that’s just because I’ve had personal loss. And I really learned a lot from that book. And I think there’s some power in moving through your grief too. So that’s another one.

That’s more like a sort of like a daily meditation type book. So it’s not like a full on read. It’s like a one day so it’s, it’s a good read for sure. If anyone is in that situation, and then um Well, I mean, I have so many,

Mostafa Hosseini  38:46 

just to read that book, The one at a time to grieve one degree.

Kristin Swanson  38:49 

Well, when you have experienced loss. A lot loss of a loved one mainly. Yeah.

Mostafa Hosseini  38:57 

Interesting. I’m gonna buy that from my cousin.

Kristin Swanson  39:00 

Yes, do it. It’s such a, like I said, it’s just like you pick it up just when you’re feeling blue and read one page. And that’s all you need. I mean, and then you can kind of like because that’s kind of how grief comes in like waves. So that’s why I love it.

I think that other one is probably big mat is called Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. So that what I love about that one is really all about like the creative Muse and just catching it when it’s present. And it kind of talks about that the ego and the fear and the those voices like we talked about, like having them ride in the backseat while you’re taking action moving towards and hers is about writing. But yeah,

Mostafa Hosseini  39:42 

those are probably the three. Robert that’s a good book. That’s a good list. It’s a it’s a new list for me. And very interesting and very timely. What’s one advice that made a massive change in your life or business

Kristin Swanson  40:04 

One advice. Um,

Kristin Swanson  40:11 

that’s a tough one. I don’t know, I’m kind of stumped on this one, can we come back to it?

Mostafa Hosseini  40:18 

Sure. So one advice that made a massive change your life or business, or massive change the way you think about life or, you know, mindset change and the rest of it, but I’ll come back to that later.

Kristin Swanson  40:31 

Okay. And it’s not like if somebody gave me but it’s from that book, The Big Leap. So the upper limit problem, like my awareness of an upper limit problem, which is described in depth in the book, but it’s basically like when you’re about to hit, like, where you want to be, you come with these upper limit problems start to come up in your life.

And for me, it’s like worry, and it seems to be like health stuff for me. But um, no, and it’s like, basically, that you’re self sabotaging. And you don’t know that you’re doing it. And just the awareness of upper limit problems has been like a game changer for me.

Mostafa Hosseini  41:14 

Awareness of the upper limit, upper limit, what again,

Kristin Swanson  41:20 

it’s called an upper limit problem.

Mostafa Hosseini  41:23 

 awareness of the upper limit. You know, we talked about that book, The Big Leap, and I’m gonna pick it up, pick it up. Yeah.

Kristin Swanson  41:35 

Read like a really quick, Audible, it’s, it’s a life changer.

Mostafa Hosseini  41:40 

Yeah. I’m gonna read that up. So what advice would you give your 20 year old self?

Kristin Swanson  41:50 

She’s, um, probably to not take life so seriously. And trust yourself.

Mostafa Hosseini  42:07 

STORY BEHIND nose.

Kristin Swanson  42:10 

So I just always was looking for like external approval. And I it took me a long time to learn that you have all the answers you really do. And to trust that, and I find a lot of people have a hard time trusting themselves. And it, it really is powerful. And trusting your intuition to know

Mostafa Hosseini  42:37 

trusting your intuition, you have all the answers, loving beauty. If you had a Facebook ad, or a Google ad, where everyone on the internet could see around the world. What would your message be for people of Earth?

Kristin Swanson  43:03 

There’s something about like living life for yourself. And I always say like, I want to remove the word should from the vocabulary. I think there’s something about that word that drives behavior that I can’t even put words around it. But that is what I see so often that I would love to just read the world of shoulds.

Mostafa Hosseini  43:28 

So living life for yourself and removing the word should and I think that is all related true. Through maybe see your someday when projects as well.

Kristin Swanson  43:41 

I think it is I think it’s living in integrity, integrity with what you want.

Mostafa Hosseini  43:47 

Yeah, love it. Love it. Love it. Kristen, this is this has been an absolutely amazing conversation. And I feel that we could we could go on forever, because it’s a deep topic. Almost everybody that I know, has some someday when projects and if they say they don’t, they’re probably in denial.

And so gang if you’re watching or listening, go to Kristin Swanson. consulting.com. Grab Kristen’s Make It Happen planner. Make it to do list, make a strategy on what you’re going to do on how you’re going to reach your goal. And get it done. Reach out to Kristen, ask for help. This is what she does she tell us about what you do and who you serve again, please.

Kristin Swanson  44:35 

Yeah, so I primarily work with thought leaders and helping them to move these things forward. So getting clear on what those actions might be and then supporting them after they have the plan to continuously take that consistent action and overcome that fear and move through those emotions and hold them accountable and keep going until it is a reality in their life.

Mostafa Hosseini  45:00 

Beautiful. So if you’re an executive business owner and you have any of these projects on the list, do reach out, go to Kristin Swanson consulting.com. Ask for help and you shall receive. Thank you for watching or listening. As usual, make sure that you like the show, subscribe to whichever channel that you’re watching from.

If you have any questions for me or Kristen, put them in the chat box at this Sunday when project topic is an important topic. And again, don’t be shy. If you have any questions. Kristen is here to help and if I can help in any shape or form I would. And if you have any friends that could benefit from this. We all have a lot of friends that could benefit from this. Do share this video or post with them.

Have them go through have them download the Make It Happen planner on Chris’s website. And then we’ll go from there. Thank you very much, gang for watching. Thank you, Kristen, any parting words that we you wanted to talk about me, Mary that might have forgotten?

Kristin Swanson  46:07 

No, I can’t think of anything. I think we covered it. Just wanted to say thanks for having me.

Mostafa Hosseini  46:11 

Great to have you. Thank you very much. My name is Mostafa Hosseini. Thank you for joining us and we’ll see you on our next episode. Bye now.