Mindset Mastery: Unlocking Success and Overcoming Obstacles – ep 89

Mostafa Hosseini  00:02

Welcome to deadly conference for entrepreneurs. In this episode, we will talk about how you’re creating problems that you don’t need, how you’re addicted to situations that keep repeating in your life, what holds you back the most and how to fix it and you will watch Shiraz Babu, my friend exposing and coaching me live on the show.

Today the topic is the problem is actually the solution and we’re gonna have a very interesting conversation. As usual, please make sure you like and subscribe to the show. And if you have any questions for us, put them live in the chat or even if you’re watching or listening after the show, put them as a comment on social media and we’ll we’ll get back to you on those questions.

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So if you’re interested in getting appointments and referrals, which leads into sales, type retention in a comment below and I’ll send you the link to download the blueprint. My guest today is Shiraz Babu. Welcome Shiraz.

Shiraz Baboo  01:29

Thank you, Christopher. Great to be here.

Mostafa Hosseini  01:31

Great to see you my friend. So I’m going to do an introduction to Shiro and we’re going to dive into a very interesting conversation. Shiraz Babu is an award winning author, international speaker and reality shifting specialist.

Coaches and healers hire Shiraz to rewrite their business stories. And the real reality because most people are are unknowingly addicted to stories of adversity and struggle and left with a lack of success, confidence and freedom. Shiraz helps you eliminate your unconscious addiction to these stories in order to ignite a stream of high paying clients while feeling an abundance of free time. money and energy. Welcome Shiraz.

Shiraz Baboo  02:19

Thank you.

Mostafa Hosseini  02:21

I know my friend.

Shiraz Baboo  02:22

I’m doing great. How are you?

Mostafa Hosseini  02:24

Fantastic. Which part of the world are you in?

Shiraz Baboo  02:28

I am in Toronto Canada.

Mostafa Hosseini  02:30

Loving and what’s it like out there right now?

Shiraz Baboo  02:34

windy and rainy,

Mostafa Hosseini  02:35

rainy.

Mostafa Hosseini  02:38

At least it’s not snowing. We got snow and

Mostafa Hosseini  02:41

well, we got snow here overnight in Calgary so. So it’s attack called even for us in Calgary. I’m like, Well, I was done for the for the call to just leave us but it just seems to creep in. Just as we think it’s out it just creeps right in. That’s Canada. So we’re talking about the problem, how the problem is actually the solution which which is a very interesting topic.

 And I really look forward to talking about this and I really look forward to your coaching and helping me with any issue. So during our conversation, whatever issue comes up, I want to tell you that Shiraz, this is an issue, and we’re gonna work on it. Okay, and people get to watch us get to watch me get exposed and coached live on my own channel. Let’s see how that’s gonna turn out.

So Shiraz, let’s get started. What is your story?

Shiraz Baboo  03:40

My story started off when I was 22 years old. I was in university I was studying to be a molecular geneticist. Get a doctorate. My family is full of doctors, so everyone just hadn’t expected me to follow along and be a doctor as well. And I was also a bodybuilder. It’s in the best shape of my life. Everything was going great. The world was my oyster. And then the world did not give me pearls. It gave me arthritis.

And wasn’t just my body kind of hurts arthritis. It was intense pain. In every joint in my body. There were nights where I would sit dinner through a straw because my jaw was so swollen and in pain. I would spend days lying in bed in pain my body slowly deteriorating joints deforming. And that started to become my life. And I tried different things, medication supplements diet, started doing things like acupuncture and the next best organic thing that would come out and and the crazy thing is everything worked for a little while, and then it would just stop working again. And I couldn’t figure out what was going on.

And have you ever had that situation not the arthritis but where you’ve got life. lined up, you know, the plan you executing the plan and then out of left field bam. Like now what? What the hell am I supposed to do?

Mostafa Hosseini  05:06

Every day? Okay, everything is perfect. But it just doesn’t happen the way you wanted it.

Shiraz Baboo  05:19

And yeah, so I had to change the plan. And when you have illness like arthritis, you build up a pain tolerance. So eventually I was able to get a life going, I switched to college, got a degree in computer science went to the tech industry. And but I was always in pain. And eventually, I was developing a limb, I was losing mobility in my joints. But I was still out there trying to do things.

 And I remember at one time, in one of the board meetings, it was Monday morning, we had come in, we’re having this meeting. But as we’re things are getting the setup, one of the VPs of CEOs comes in. And he’s just like, ah, and they’re like, What, oh, my back is kind of hurting you. I was playing a lot of tennis this weekend. And now my back’s really sore. It’s gonna affect me this week. It’s not I’m not gonna be a peak performance. I’m listening to this guy ramble on. I’m an intense pain, not showing it not complaining about it.

And this is his biggest problem. And have you ever been in that situation where you’re like, listening to this person, you go, if if I only had the problems you had, I would be blowing by you right now, I would be doing so much better. And you’re bitching about this little back there? Like you’re nodding if you felt?

Mostafa Hosseini  06:31

Absolutely. Absolutely.

Shiraz Baboo  06:33

And this is thing, because we all have these obstacles we have to deal with yours may not be arthritis. But there’s this thing that I’ve got to deal with this on top of what’s normally out there. And people are stuck in this and like how can I get past this? How am I supposed to compete with all these other people that don’t have these problems? Given that I have to deal with illness or 17 children? I don’t know how many like, you know, racism, sexism, ageism, all these different things that can come up. So I can continue to long and eventually I had a conversation with my dad. And it was almost 20 years since I got the arthritis.

And I said, Is there anything we haven’t looked at? Is there anything you’ve heard about recently? And he said, there’s a place that I’ve heard about in India, where they do a thing called combined therapy. And they’ve had success with multiple illnesses. And that caught my attention, because it’s usually you go to a place for arthritis, or you go to place for cancer or diabetes? And he said, No, no, they’ve been helping all sorts of people get through illnesses, and how are they doing? So so I get on a plane, I head over there. And I start working with this guy. And because it’s India, I’m thinking, it’s some sort of Reiki Lay on Hands thing, okay, you’re gonna heal.

That’s, that’s got to be the way they do everyone. But all he did was talk to me for two weeks. And it was like being with a psychiatrist. So when he wasn’t trying to solve anything, he was just gathering information, all the stuff asked me all these little details about my life. And at the end of the two weeks, he says, Charles, here’s the problem. You believe you’re responsible for everyone in your life? And I said, No, I don’t. I said, Yeah, I know, you don’t consciously think you’re responsible for everyone. But from everything you’ve told me, you’ve created an unconscious belief that you’re responsible for everyone in your life.

And it started when you were at eight years old. And I thought about it, okay, I know, I’m a responsible guy, but I don’t think I’m responsible for everyone. And then I said, Look, what does this even have to do with arthritis? There’s no connection. Oh, no, no, no, no. You don’t want to be responsible for everyone. Yeah, obviously, if you’re lying in bed in pain, you don’t have to be responsible for anyone. If you’re just trying to get through the days in pain. You can’t afford to be responsible for other people. So it’s the solution to a problem you don’t even realize you have. And I thought, That’s messed up. And he goes, Yes, but most chronic illnesses are solutions to problems people don’t realize they have.

Mostafa Hosseini  09:14

Say that one more time. That last sentence,

Shiraz Baboo  09:17

most chronic illnesses are solutions to problems people don’t realize they have most

Mostafa Hosseini  09:23

chronic illnesses or solutions to problems. They don’t know they have. Yes. Expand on that, please.

Shiraz Baboo  09:33

So you you create the illness as a solution like for me, so I don’t have to be responsible for I worked with someone and now illness isn’t specifically my specialty, but I’ve helped a lot of people through illness in the course of creating success. And just last year, I worked with a woman. She had fibromyalgia. She was always in pain from the fibromyalgia. And when we started working together So, we talked about her job and she’s like, Oh, I hate my job.

I’m like, Well, why don’t you get a different job? And she said, No, this is what I’ve been trained to do. This is what I studied for. I’ve got my pension building in this job. If I leave this job, I lose that. This is the job I have to be like, but you hate it. She’s like, Yeah. And I said, and you don’t have to go that often. Because you’re home sick with fibromyalgia, you’re in too much pain to go to a job you hate. And she’s like, Oh, I never thought about it that way. And so I want you to think about it that way. Because you’ve created the fibromyalgia so you don’t have to go to a job you hate.

Now what if you went to another job and and of course everything about her everything she’s believed it’s this is the job she has to be. Because she loses the benefits, she loses the the the pension, she’s, this is the only thing she’s trained for, like, it’s all this. So this is it. But eventually, I got her to make a decision. Let me try a different jobs, similar fields, the same field, but different place, I have to lose that. But let me try something else. And she eventually found a job that she was excited to go to. And the day she made that decision to quit the job and go to the new job, the fibromyalgia one, because it was keeping her from going to the other job as often as she could, it gave her the break.

So that’s what happens with a lot of chronic illnesses. And it’s not that they they’re fake, because I’ve got the damage in my body from the arthritis to show that it’s it’s not fake, you actually get the illness, but it’s your minds protection mechanism. From you not going into situation you don’t want to be

Mostafa Hosseini  11:40

very interesting. So sure as what is it that you do these days? And who do you help?

Shiraz Baboo  11:47

So I help entrepreneurs, mostly coaches and some healers, to to figure out what that problem is. So for me when I got explained that, okay, this is the solution for a problem. I, my logical brain just went to Well, wait a second, this is a solution for a problem, then all I have to do is say, I’m not going to be responsible for anyone but me. And I shouldn’t have the arthritis anymore.

Because if that’s the solution, and he said, yeah, if you actually believe it deep down, that you’re not responsible for anyone, but you don’t need the arthritis. And so I said, Fine, I’m not gonna be responsible for anyone but me. And I just made that internal decision. And the next morning, I woke up and there was no pain, no inflammation, more mobility, had, I could even breathe better, I’m freaking out. Because everything that I’ve learned is this doesn’t happen overnight. There’s no way you cure an illness like this.

Of course, the damage is still there. It’s not like my body miraculously healed and everything was gone. But the pain, the inflammation, the symptoms of the arthritis were gone. And what’s funny is there’s a track that was there that I would be out on the track every day, just doing a walk. And at that time, because of all the pain and stuff I was doing like this old man shuffle like I was 70 years old. But I’d be doing the track every day because I’m trying to get some access.

And I’m actually getting paid past by people that are 70 year old, that are walking along the track. And but this day, I get up and I’m on that track, and I’m passing other people. I’m even passing people that are normal, just doing their walks around the truck. And they’re looking at me going What the hell? And I’m like, I know, right, what the hell, and I get home and everyone’s like, you’re not limping anymore. You have more energy, what is going on.

And so because that problem is gone, I got rid of the actual problem. And here’s the thing, we’ve been talking about illness, but this is not about illness. This is about everything. If you have a consistent problem in your life, a reoccurring problem, or a barrier that you just can’t get past. That’s not a problem. That is the solution. And when you start to look for the actual problem, solve that the thing you thought was the problem goes away.

Mostafa Hosseini  14:05

Give me an example on that.

Shiraz Baboo  14:08

A simple one is a lot of people, I’d like to make more money. Right? Yeah. How do I make more money? And I asked them, Do you actually want to make a lot more money? Like, what if you made an extra $1,000 this year? And resounding responses, that would be amazing. If I had made an extra $100,000 This year, then I could pay off my debts or I could go traveling Are you know, I could do the things I want I could buy these things I’ve been wanting to get.

And that’s consciously that’s it? Yep. You making the extra money, you can do all those things. But then we started going a little deeper. And I say, Okay, what’s gonna happen with your friends and family when they when they find out you’re making an extra $100,000 a year? And a lot of people go dislike, oh, they might say, Can I have some? Can I borrow some can you invest in my project? And how does that make you feel? I don’t want to have those conversations, right? And your brain prioritizes emotional distress over physical results.

So if you don’t want to have those conversations about money and giving your money away, or if you think that once you have that money, you’re obligated to give it away, whether you want to enact and you hate that feeling. Your brain says, Well, if we don’t make that money, I don’t have to go through that situation. Problem solved.

So you unconsciously sabotage your own business. So you don’t have to go to that space. If you really hate rich people, if you complain about the millionaires and billionaires and how they’re wasting things, that you will unconsciously keep yourself as far away from being one of those so that you don’t have to complain about yourself, you don’t have to feel people are complaining about you. If you lost a lot of money sometime, and you feel shame around that, and you’ve wasted on all sorts of crappy stuff, and you’re like, I’ve got nothing to show for it.

And you don’t ever want to feel that shame again, then your brain says don’t make a lot of money, because then we can’t lose it. And all this is going under under the surface, you don’t realize it’s there. You’re just sitting there going, I’m trying my hardest in my business. Why am I not succeeding? Why I’m not going past that threshold?

Why are clients not showing up? But all the while you’re unconsciously sending out signals, taking actions doing things that aren’t going to propel you for thinking it’s going to help? And it’s not because it’s keeping you safe?

Mostafa Hosseini  16:29

Interesting.

Mostafa Hosseini  16:35

So I think that that that’s a common thing with a lot of people will were they want to make money, but they’re not. And what happens is, so based on what I’m hearing, you’re saying they’re keeping themselves safe, safer, or they think they’re being safe by not doing what’s needed to to reach their goal, I guess.

Shiraz Baboo  17:06

Yep. Yeah. And again, the brain prioritizes, the emotional over the physical. That emotional, I don’t want to have those conversations where I’ll feel shame, or people are gonna think of me as a rich ass and I don’t want them thinking of that. That’s more important to your mind to not have those feelings, then to not have money, or not have health or not have wonderful relationships. That’s it. Hmm.

Mostafa Hosseini  17:33

I think I’ve got I’ve got a bit of that going on. The other I was thinking that my income has not been has not been consistently growing at the same rate as my experience. My expertise and my insights have been growing. And I think that’s also a common problem with a lot of people. Yes. So let’s tackle that, shall we? Okay. So that’s it. That’s, that’s, that’s what I was thinking.

Shiraz Baboo  18:09

Okay, so do you want your income to increase in a big way? Yes. See, that’s not actually showing up as true. Now, here’s one thing that I’ve learned is there, there are signs that come up when your conscious beliefs match your unconscious belief, I pick up on them right away. So whenever I talk to people, I will tell you, Okay, that’s not coming up is true. So all you consciously say, Yes, unconsciously, you’re now I don’t want that money.

Are you picked on that? Yeah. And that’s, that’s how I work with people, because I’m going to call you out over and over and over. So people are realizing, oh, that’s what’s going on inside. So and there’s two reasons that you hold on to something that doesn’t work for you. Number one is there’s an immediate benefit to right, the benefit may not be what you think is so the most common benefit is you get to be right. And people choose being right over being rich, or being healthy, or having wonderful relationships or being successful.

And every time you’re, every time you’re right, you get a hit of dopamine in your brain. So you actually build that dopamine addiction to that story of being right. And it feels good. Like it could be something like, you know, my partner has always cheated on me. And your partner cheats on you unconsciously. You’re like, again, oh my God, why? Why is this happening? Or it could be complete heartbreak because you’ve got that happen. But unconsciously, it’s like see, cheated on me again. I’m right, who hit me with that dopamine.

And you build that addiction, you can build the dopamine addiction to my partners are always amazing, and always encouraging. But because this you’ve built this one, and it’s working, your brain doesn’t want to let go of it. Fair enough. All right. And this is it’s like any addiction to any drug, any chemical. When you start to change it. You will also go into withdrawal. All, and it will try to pull things back. And you have to watch that. So let me ask you this.

Have you ever gone to a workshop? Or retreat, gone through a course. And at the end of it, you’re like, hope? This is it, this changes everything. I got it, my whole life is gonna change. And then after a few weeks or a few months, you have that back restarted. Yeah, yeah. So the thing worked, it got you out. But the withdrawal pulled you back in. So unless you’re doing exercises, to keep yourself out to keep yourself moving forward until you pass the withdrawal period, you end up back where you started. I mean, I’ve been through it multiple times myself until I realized this is what’s going on. And sometimes you convince yourself, Oh, my God, they just made me think.

And it didn’t really change anything. Well, it did. Right. There’s a lot of great programs out there that will change things for you. But if they don’t have follow up, if it’s just this one weekend retreat, and you’re done, most of the time, you’re gonna lose it. Right? They say that’s like less than 10% of people that go to like, Tony Robbins events actually see concrete persisting change, because there’s no follow up for those people.

Mostafa Hosseini  21:12

All right, fair enough. Let’s go back to that idea of what you said, when you asked me Do you want a lot more money? I said, Yes. And you’re like, No, I picked on that. That the answer’s no, I want to explore that. Okay. i Right now, I’m thinking I’m like, I don’t I don’t see why internally, I would say no to that. Okay,

Shiraz Baboo  21:29

so what the so the two things, right? What’s the benefit, immediate benefit now? Or what horrible thing will happen if I let this change? Right. So like, for we talked about earlier, if I let it change, and I make a lot of more money, people are gonna come up and start asking me for money, I don’t wanna have this conversation.

That’s the horrible thing. But there’s also just the immediate benefit. I’ve seen with money. If people don’t want to do things, they use money as an excuse and are like, let’s go out and go to this restaurant and that you don’t really want to go to that dress. And I’m sorry, I can’t afford it. Right? But you unconsciously create enough poverty. So you can save that without feeling guilty about saying it because it’s real. So this is how we work. So what’s going to change?

 If you make more money, as you increase your skills, if you make a lot more money, as you increase your skills, are asking me right now. Yeah, I’m asking you.

Mostafa Hosseini  22:24

So what am I? What’s the question? Again? What’s

Shiraz Baboo  22:27

going to change in your life if your income increases at the same or greater rate as your skills increasing?

Mostafa Hosseini  22:35

What’s going to change? Yeah.

Mostafa Hosseini  22:43

sighs I’m like team is gonna grow. That’s good.

Shiraz Baboo  22:47

Okay, you didn’t like that? What’s wrong with the team growing?

Mostafa Hosseini  22:53

I think there’s a lot of time and effort involved in building a team. Right and building the right team? Yep. So that’s one piece. My income growing, what’s going to change? I’m going to be able to do a lot more than then did I want to?

Shiraz Baboo  23:15

Why didn’t you want to? Okay, that’s key, though, because of what you just said, I’m going to do more than I want to, then why would you increase your income? Because you don’t want to?

Shiraz Baboo  23:33

Okay, and this is where

Mostafa Hosseini  23:36

I said, I’m going to do more than I want to, yes.

Shiraz Baboo  23:41

See, that’s what’s running in your subconscious. Because and this is not uncommon, especially with people that have a gift and what helped the world out. You think that when I’m capable of doing more, I have to do more. And now it becomes a burden instead of an inspiration. Okay, okay. So, and this is where a lot of people live, a lot of people live in the half d, rather than they get to.

I have to, I have to work hard, I have to sacrifice my time I have to help these people. Right? My job is about helping people and I don’t have to help anyone. But I like to, I enjoy it, I get to do it. And that’s a light energy. And as my business expense, I get to help more people. But I still don’t have to, I could just say, you know, I could start making a lot more money and not help any more than I want. And I’d still be okay with that.

I wouldn’t feel guilty, but I’m not helping everyone I can. But people that are really empowered to change the world. They feel guilty if they don’t help everyone they can possibly help. And so that they create these limitations so that they don’t hit that level of guilt. And yours is well if I make a lot more money, I’m going to have to help these people. I’m going to have to build my team. I’m gonna have to put the work in to build my team and your whole body is laid off That’s a lot.

Mostafa Hosseini  25:03

Fair enough. So I am I am working on becoming a better team builder. And working on it by putting our team together. And

Mostafa Hosseini  25:20

just one block. The other piece is I don’t want to be visible. I don’t want to become a visible, like, Oh, this guy has so much money in this guy doesn’t that, you know? I don’t want that.

Shiraz Baboo  25:35

Okay, this guy has so much money, what like, how is that a bad thing?

Mostafa Hosseini  25:41

No, I’m talking not not about the money thing. I don’t like the visibility thing. Okay, I don’t want to be out there would be known as the person that runs around on social media and TV and here and there talks about how rich and now awesome, here’s how much money I have in my bank account. I just don’t want it.

Shiraz Baboo  25:59

Okay. So this is another reason you’re holding back is that you don’t want that to happen. So you minimize your income, you minimize your success to make sure that doesn’t happen. Just because other people are doing it doesn’t mean you’re going to do it. But you believe you might turn into one of those people.

Probably you’re worried about what other people are going to think of you. And as soon as you start worrying about what everyone thinks of you, you cut everything off right there, you just put limitations because now they have control of your life, whoever the hell they are. So a lot of you don’t even know who they are. It’s just this day that’s out there. And you’ve as if you’re worried, I don’t want people talking about me like that way.

I don’t want anyone to say, Oh, he’s just out there for the money. You’ve handed over control of your life to the day. So, if you don’t care what anyone thinks about you, you can do whatever the hell you want. There’s the freedom. And it’s not about not caring about people absolutely care about people just don’t care what they think about.

Shiraz Baboo  27:11

Okay, go ahead. Okay. So what I do, when I work with people is when we get to a belief, or a story, and our belief is something that just is like the sky is blue or chocolate is taste good. A story is something that happens over and over again. This always happens to me, no one ever listens to me story of my life. That’s it. I’m going to ask are you willing to destroy the belief?

Are you willing to step out of the story? If you say yes, and you need it, it actually starts rewiring in your brain to that new reality, you let go of that thing you’ve been holding on to. Okay, now, I’m not causing you to do this. I’m asking you the question.

You’re the one making the decision and starting the rewiring of your own brain. clear about that, because I get a lot of people that come up to me sutras, please shift this for me change the way I think I’d like it’s not me. I’m just finding out what the problem is. It’s got to be you. Okay. All right. So are you willing to step out of your story, that if you make lots of money, you’ll become like one of those people that shows off about their life and their money to everyone?

Mostafa Hosseini  28:17

Can you just say it one more time?

Shiraz Baboo  28:20

Are you willing to step out of your story, that if you make a lot more money, you’ll become like one of those people, those arrogant people that shows off about their lifestyle and their money and all this success? Yes. There, okay. I actually react with people shift so.

Shiraz Baboo  28:51

Are you willing to step out of your story that you have to limit your money, your success and your fame? So no one thinks of you as one of those arrogant people that’s just about those things?

Mostafa Hosseini  29:05

Yes.

Shiraz Baboo  29:21

Are you willing to step out of your story that having more money obligates you to do more than you want to do?

Mostafa Hosseini  29:31

I still have to work on that a little bit. So the other piece about visibility is not about the arrogance of people. It’s just about the visibility and being out there and I think it’s about the exposure. Right? Like I don’t care about arrogant people out there doing whatever they do. You don’t want to be it’s like the thing that comes to my mind is like, I just don’t want to be out there and be visible and and you know, run around and tell everyone that oh, look at me I’m, you know, I this is what I have.

Shiraz Baboo  30:06

Well, what’s so what’s so bad about being people seeing you?

Mostafa Hosseini  30:12

What’s so bad? So what couple of things that pops in my mind as you asked that question is, I had an uncle who was, who was, let’s call it let’s call him my rich dad, right? And this guy was well off. And a couple of times he actually as he was driving some people that knew him, pulled him over, knocked him out, stole money from him, left him stranded in on the highway. And that’s what pops in my mind as we ask that question. So that’s

Shiraz Baboo  30:45

what you’re trying to avoid. Right? You’ve decided that if you become visible, that’s going to happen to you. But there’s a lot of people that are visible that that never happens. And this is what we do is we take from the experiences we had in life, the things that we’ve learned, and we decide, well, that’s just the way things are, rather than Well, that’s just what happened to that person is all these possibilities. But that’s just what happened to that person.

And then you lock that in and create your life around it so that you can be safe. You’re trying not to be pulled out of your car and attacked and robbed. Right? It may never happen, what is likely it will never happen. But because you know what happened to a specific person, you’ve, you’ve anchor that in your body, and you’re like, Okay, I can only become this visible, because once I passed that threshold, I might get attacked, I can only make this much money.

Because after I pass that threshold, there’s going to be bad things happening. And that’s what’s going on. And everyone does this, every single person does this. So are you willing to step out of your story that if you become more visible, what happened to your uncle will happen to you? Yes. Oh?

Shiraz Baboo  32:15

Okay, we’ll do a little check in here. How do you feel now better, worse, the same or different? There’s no wrong answer here.

Mostafa Hosseini  32:23

I have a lot of sensations in my skin. So it’s feels like my body’s pretty worked up.

Shiraz Baboo  32:33

And everyone when they do this, they’re their body reacts differently. Yeah.

Mostafa Hosseini  32:37

And like, I’ve tapped into my subconscious, pretty deeply here.

Shiraz Baboo  32:44

Okay. And this is, this is also important because most people are trying to create their life from what they don’t want to happen rather than what they do want to happen. Right? It’s towards motivation and away from motivation, away from away from motivation, and says, I don’t want this to happen. I don’t want to be like these people. Right?

I don’t want anyone to think this. That doesn’t lead to success. Towards motivation does. Interesting. If you, if you study law of attraction, it’s like, whatever you focus on, you attract your your create. And if your focus is I don’t want to be like, these types of people, your focus isn’t on, I want to be this wonderful person it’s on. I don’t want to be like these types of people. So you’re gonna start to see other people being like that, and people reacting to them.

And you’re like, See, I gotta make sure I’m not like that, because that’s where your focus is. But if you’re like, I’d like to be like these people that are inspiring that people are looking up to that are changing the world, well, then you’re gonna see more of those people in your life. You’re like, yes, that’s exactly what I want. And that’s going to just push you pushing forward and into pull you forward actually pull you forward into that space.

There’s a whole difference in when you learn how to deal with push energy versus pull energy. Right? Most people live in push energy. Successful people have shifted over to pull energy you can tell this to because what’s the last big concert you ever went to?

Mostafa Hosseini  34:25

Some Persian singer named Abby.

Shiraz Baboo  34:26

Okay. Was was that girl or guy is a guy got okay. So was he pushing his energy and talent into the audience? Or was he pulling everyone into his performance?

Mostafa Hosseini  34:40

Pulling? Yeah. See,

Shiraz Baboo  34:42

these people that are onstage they’ve mastered that’s where they get the bigger stages. Right. And this is also important when you are trying to make sales when you try to connect people we that’s why we have an expression pushy salespeople. They’re pushing their product, their energy, everything at you But if you’re in a pool energy people are like, Hey, wait, how do I get to work with you? Just tell me tell me like, here’s my money. Take it like, when you’re when you’ve mastered that pool. That’s what happens with.

Mostafa Hosseini  35:10

Interesting. So what’s the next step for me? What What else do I need to like tap into our explore and or do with this the two three points that we just talked about?

Shiraz Baboo  35:21

So you want to keep exploring what’s what’s the benefit in the current situation? And how do I shift that? You want to look at the life you want to create and get into a pull energy towards that rather than a I want to make sure this doesn’t happen? Oh,

Mostafa Hosseini  35:41

here’s an odd thing that just popped up.

Shiraz Baboo  35:45

My what benefit of

Mostafa Hosseini  35:47

the current situation? As you were talking, as I get to spend more time with my family?

Shiraz Baboo  35:52

Ah, okay. That’s a big one. If you get one

Mostafa Hosseini  35:57

and family one. Family is my number one value.

Shiraz Baboo  36:00

Yep. But here’s the thing. If you are building a team, and you’re delegating all the responsibility, you can’t do that team, you get more time with your family, not less. Right? Well, I, I had shoulder surgery one time, the surgeon was just so inspiring. And I never forgot what he told me. Because I came in for initial consultation was like 15 minutes.

And then he says, I’ll see you at surgery. And I’m like, That’s it. He goes, Yeah, I’m the racecar driver. I’m like, what he does. So you know, people go out to the Indy 500. And they watch the racecar drivers, right? I said, Yeah. And the racecar drivers are the stars, they drive the car around the track. I’m like, yeah, he goes. But who builds the car, who does the promotion, who’s who’s like, taking care of the sponsors, like there’s all these people involved, that make that a success. It’s not just this one guy who built his own car and put it all together. But he comes in drives the car, he’s really good at what he does.

And then he gets all the accolades, and he goes home. And that’s all yesterday, we used to come and drive the car and leave. That’s how I built my business. So I’ve given you this concept. So I know what’s going on. Now, there’s gonna be a bunch of people you’re going to work with, they’re going to take care of everything else. And I’ll come and they’ll do the surgery.

Because I’m the racecar driver. Now, if you have to be a part of your business, then you have to build your business as though you’re the racecar driver. If you’re building your business in a different way you can build your business you don’t even have to show up and money comes in, is the two types of business. Like most coaches want to be there, because they want to coach peoples, so they got to be the racecar driver. But other people build businesses, it’s products based business especially, you don’t have to be there, just get the people to sell the products and get it out there. But a lot of people think I have to be there, I’m important.

I have to be responsible for everything in every part of my business, no one’s gonna be able to do it as well as I do, because it’s my business. And I know it. And I won’t feel valuable unless I’m involved in everything. So there’s a little bit of ego playing, and there was sometimes a lot of ego playing in there. And as a result, your work you’re overworking yourself, you’re spending too much time you’re micromanaging people.

Sometimes you hire, you unconsciously hire incompetent people. So you can say, look, see, I have to do it, because everyone I hire can’t do it. You’ll do these things, to show why you have to work hard and stay in your business. But if you switch over to that racecar driver mentality, your goal is how can I put this team in place and build things up so that I can spend way more time with my family and way less time in the business.

And it doesn’t mean you don’t want to do the business doesn’t mean you want to don’t want to put a whole bunch of value in there. But right now, you’re probably in a position where you’re doing things that can be delegated, but you haven’t put yourself at an income level high enough that you can start delegating them, so that you can spend more time with your family. And of course, your brain is doing the exact opposite say, oh, but if I hire more people, I’m responsible for those more more people I have to do all the trading of those more people is less time with my family, no not going to do it.

 Even though the outcome is gonna be the opposite.

Mostafa Hosseini  39:08

Which question for me is how can I build a team and a business that allows me to spend more time I forgot my family.

Shiraz Baboo  39:16

You want to be doing in your business? What’s on? What do you want to be doing in your business? Not what does has to be involved in your business? But what do you want to be doing in your business?

Mostafa Hosseini  39:27

When? When? Yeah, my question is, I think there’s different stages of business. Like initial stages, I’m running, I’m running it, I’m building it, then there’s like, there’s the time when I’m just managing it and then there’s the exit phase where I would start working my way out and have the team run by itself. Okay. So what my question is what, what stage are you asking me? This question?

Shiraz Baboo  39:54

I guess it comes back to how much time you want to spend with your family. So you have to look Get this is how much time I want to spend in the business versus my family and then start building it with that goal in mind. Right, Michael is always say start with the end in mind, if you’re eventually going to sell the business and exit the business, then you’ve got to say, Okay, what’s the quickest way I can get from now to exiting that business?

But if you want to be involved in the business and be doing, I

Mostafa Hosseini  40:24

can ask that question I want to be I want the business to be able to run by itself, and have me be gone. Two months a year. Okay. I’m not, I’m only maybe checking in my email, text or WhatsApp message or something. Okay. And other than that, it runs by itself. Okay. And that, okay, here’s the story behind that, so that I can spend more time with my mom and dad and my brothers. And the rest of my family. Yep.

Shiraz Baboo  40:58

All right. So instead of focusing on what, you know, what do I have to do immediately, you have you start with, that’s where I want to go. So your brain starts thinking, like, once you say, that’s, that’s what I want to create. That’s where I want to be, your brain will automatically start thinking about it in the background. And then from there each day, you want to you want to think and say, what is the action I can take today, that will have the biggest impact, to get me from where I am to where I want to be. Okay?

Now, this is this is important, because we’re talking impact, not effort, the biggest impact would be calling someone to make a JV deal. That’s going to propel things forward. And it’s a two minute conversation. And that’s the biggest thing you want to do for that day. You can do a bunch of other things that day, but you want to get that done. And then the next day, what’s the biggest thing I could do today? Well, it’s going to be teaching this class, what’s the biggest thing I could do today, it’s going to this training to up my skills.

And each day, what’s the biggest impact thing I can do? The average person does this. Zero times a year, people do it, but it’s so small, it’s less less than one, it’s closer to zero than one for the average person. And that’s why they get the results they’re doing. But if every day, you’re like, what’s the biggest impact thing I can do? And you do it, your business just keeps moving forward and forward and forward to that goal. But you got to start with that goal. So that you have that has that mile that flag at the end, saying that’s where I’m heading.

Mostafa Hosseini  42:28

Let’s walk through an example. So what what’s the question is, what’s the biggest impact thing that I could do? To get me closer to my goal? Yes. So I’m trying to answer that question.

Shiraz Baboo  42:40

It’s going to be different every day. That’s the thing.

Mostafa Hosseini  42:44

Right? So something different every day,

Shiraz Baboo  42:46

it will be different every day. So you know, the the biggest impact thing I did on the weekend was teach a class because a whole bunch of people came in and paid for that class. And and that brought in income, which is gonna help my business. Right? The biggest impact thing I’m doing today is being on your show, because I’m getting exposed to more people and taking my brand out there.

So this is the biggest impact thing today. Sometimes the biggest impact and this is this happens because people have to allow for this sometimes the biggest impact thing you can do for that day. It’s not do anything because you need a damn break.

Mostafa Hosseini  43:23

Can I share a story from Friday? Absolutely. Friday, this past Friday, I woke up in the morning, and I’m like, I’ve done what I’ve not I needed to do for the past month. today. I’m just going to chill out. And I’m going to let God and the universe and the people and all the conversations do their magic. Funny enough, there was more money in my account by the end of the day on Friday.

And I was not expecting that this is not some some woowoo shut that I’m talking about. Like, literally, I sat back on Friday, I was talking to a couple of girls like, I don’t feel like working today. I’m just gonna chill, right? And then, even today in the morning, I’m like, I have a few meetings lined up. I’m not going to work in between. I’m good luck. I gave myself permission to just chill and let the magic do its work. And I feel I feel much better when I do that.

Like when I’m when I’m frustrating with frustrating myself with too much work and too much effort and too much stress. It almost always doesn’t work.

Shiraz Baboo  44:36

Because you’re in a place of resistance. Yeah. And yeah, and everything works easier when you’re in willingness rather than when you’re in resistance.

Mostafa Hosseini  44:45

Absolutely. So let’s talk about more. Is there anything else? Any anything more that you’d like to work on me or with me? On what we talked about? Okay.

Shiraz Baboo  44:59

So how are you he’ll now because I think we should have to work a little bit more on this about being visible.

Mostafa Hosseini  45:07

How do I feel about being visible? Yeah. So what I have what I’m thinking about right now,

Mostafa Hosseini  45:16

what comes to mind is I don’t have a problem with personally being visible, that what comes up is I don’t want my bank account to be visible. Okay?

Shiraz Baboo  45:29

And you don’t have to make your bank account visible.

Mostafa Hosseini  45:32

That’s the obvious thing.

Shiraz Baboo  45:37

But, see, again, you’re worried that if your bank account was visible, then people will come after you because they know how much money you correct or is it? Yeah,

Mostafa Hosseini  45:47

I guess I Yes. Okay.

Shiraz Baboo  45:49

So, but there’s all these people out there that have lots of money, that are invisible. They’re invisible, like, one of my best friends, multimillionaire, and you wouldn’t know it. All right. Because he doesn’t, he doesn’t show off that he has nice things. But he doesn’t have like super, super nice things to really show off how much money he’s got.

 Right? But he just lives this wonderful life. He travels all the time. He’s got resorts in different countries. But he’s just laid back and just I don’t bring it up. People don’t ask if the thing is a few people do ask he’s, he’s not ashamed to bring it up. Because it’s just, he’s just being real. But he’s not worried about what people think. And that’s where it comes back to, you’re worried about what people are gonna think of you how they’re gonna react to you how they’re gonna respond.

And that worry, causes you to go into a place of contraction limitation and keep yourself small and invisible.

Mostafa Hosseini  46:46

Interesting. So, let’s talk about how, by the way, thank you for that. That was very helpful. I think I’m gonna dig dig, dig deeper into this. And one thing I just wrote down is, there’s that exercise of asking questions, asking, putting a statement or a question and asking why five or five or six times and getting to the core of what actually is the problem?

Yes, I’m gonna do that with a few of my statements that I put down. And let me just go over is do more than I have to, I’m gonna, I’m gonna answer that question. Don’t want to be visible, I’m gonna answer that question. And go, you know, do the why question. Okay, and get to the core of that. And then yeah, I want to do that tonight. So one thing I want to go back to circle back to is that concept of pushing versus pulling, which sounds very interesting.

Do you mind expanding on that and, and tell us first we’ll expand more on the description of what it is and how we can use it and apply it on our day to day life.

Shiraz Baboo  47:49

Pushing energy is more of a controlling energy, you’re trying to get a specific result that has to be that way. And you can feel that again, with a pushy salesperson, you can be like, Oh my God, and sometimes that works. But most people that get pushed into a decision end up having buyer’s remorse. Pooling is an invitation.

Come come on this journey with me, come play with me. Let me see what I have. And people are, they love to get into a pull energy, you’re pulled into people’s music, you’re pulled into movies and TV shows, you can be pulled into someone’s business. And, and it’s not just to get them in when you’re in the business, you want to stay in that polarity come along for this journey.

Let’s let’s have some fun, let’s change some things. I’m gonna just gonna pull you along for the ride. And people are always happy to just get pulled along for some crazy, crazy adventure. Even if it’s building their business, changing their lives, even in products. Using a product people get pulled in for the adventure product, if you watch commercials, like you watch like a GM commercial, they’re not saying you have our GM it’s it tastes it tastes good.

And, and it’s it’ll be nice and chewy and it’ll sate your hunger or something like they’re like, you’ll have fun on the beach and you’ll meet the girl of your dreams or the guy of your dreams and and you know, your whole life will change you’re being pulled into that adventure. And it’s but the commercials about GM isn’t really going to do

Mostafa Hosseini  49:15

interesting Yeah, so you’re saying that pulling kind of sounds to me like attraction like invitation? Yes. Trying something testing something doing a trial on a product versus this is good this is amazing trying tested you are you’re gonna die if you don’t that’s like pushy versus Do you want to test this? Are you are you open to testing this and see if it will work for you. Like that’s like an invitation. I can pulling type of thing.

Shiraz Baboo  49:42

Yeah. So yeah, and you’re right, because like pushing, it’s just like, if you don’t do this, your life will suck. And pulling. Yes. What if by doing this, you get the life of your dreams. I’d rather go for option two.

Mostafa Hosseini  49:54

Right. And here you can get a taste. Yeah. Right. Yeah. And if you don’t Unlike it, that’s 100%. Okay. Yep. All right. Very interesting. Pulling, versus pushing. You know, that’s why my business, I like to pull in peace as well. Like reaching out to people and inviting them, and nurturing them. And, and standing tight touch with them, you know, to provide value.

Right. That’s how you pull them in versus, you know, the other way around, I guess. Yeah. Interesting. So let me ask you a few personal questions. Sure. This was very interesting. Before we do that, can you tell us about your gift, please? The focusing audio to build your mental muscle? Yes,

Shiraz Baboo  50:53

this is something that I didn’t realize I was even doing. And it was pointed out to me through a program I was in last year. And that is, if you want to change your way of thinking, you have to be able to hold a thought, for a minimum of 17 to 35 seconds. But most people’s attention span is around eight seconds long.

Mostafa Hosseini  51:19

Okay, probably about one second right now, after COVID.

Shiraz Baboo  51:25

So, so what this what this is, is, it’s a two minute, five minute and 12 minute exercises that teach you how to focus better, they guide you through focus exercises, so that you can maintain that thought. So when you decide I’m going to create this in my life, you can hold the focus on that thought longer. And I do the 12 minute exercise every morning. And I’ve been doing it for years. And people are always like trust, how come you stay calm?

When everything goes to hell? How come that you can just be pleasant when someone is telling you that your stuff doesn’t work, or they’re breaking down and crying because of what’s going on in their life. And you’re still just compassionate and calm and loving. And nothing ever really seems to faze you. And I realized it was because I do these exercises every day. So that when I want something to happen, I can just be focused to make it happen. And when something when things start to go to hell around me, I can stay in this calm, focused space.

 And that’s so important in navigating what happens in life. Because there’s always going to be unexpected things that come up, and how you handle those things, is going to determine what outcomes you get in the future. And I didn’t realize like, I just thought I was a natural, calm person until one of the people that does a similar program was showing similar exercise and I’m like, oh my god, I do that every day. And he showed actually brain scans of how it’s shifting the neurons in the brain lighting up the the areas that create calmness, give you serotonin and dopamine to keep you calm and happy.

And, and decreasing the areas where there’s a lot of fear, where there’s holding back where, where you’re creating, creating stress. And so I’m like, okay, here are the audios. Now you guys can listen to them too. And that just guides you through the exercise. And this one thing, the shortest ones are two minutes, you just need to do it a few times a day, two minutes, when you have breaks, and it’s going to have an impact.

That’s the wonderful thing about it, you don’t need to go hours and hours and hours, two minutes to 12 minutes. Immediate.

Mostafa Hosseini  53:37

I’m sorry, that’s very interesting. So again, this is a very valuable gift, if you want to get access to your shoe razzes focusing audio to build your mental muscle. And so you said that we need to hold that thought for 17 to 30 seconds 17 to 35 seconds. And to to to make that happen, or is that to to to kind of what’s the word that I’m looking for? To? How did you describe that again, hold that for that long to

Shiraz Baboo  54:07

1. So to stay in a place like for people are talking about law of attraction, that’s how long the minimum time to start manifestation going. But it’s also the amount of time that you’re now determined to make something happen. It’s it’s a point at which the brain starts to rewire instead of stay where it’s been defaulted that

Mostafa Hosseini  54:29

fantastic so if you have like say an image of a of a, of a final destination of your goal, you need to hold it for 17 to 35 seconds to for your brain to kind of formalize that picture to say this is what we’re looking for. You love it so that’s um that’s another new thing that I learned today. I didn’t know that because I probably just came with just thought about my goal for like a second and then before before even But before it was vivid, because I’d gone before I was thinking about it. Yeah.

Interesting. So again, if you would like to get better at visualizing and manifesting your goals, download and get access to she razzes gift focusing audios to build your mental muscle, the link is in the comments. It’s in the descriptions of the show. And you could get access to that for free. And if you have a need to reach out to Shiraz, if you’re joining us just right now just go back on the show, and watch what she has did to me to uncover some of the issues that I was dealing with, on why my income hasn’t paralleled my experience and expertise and levels.

And it hasn’t gone up with the same, you know, exponential curve that they’re far apart. And I think I found some stuff that I’m some good stuff that I’m going to work on. And so if you need data, and you need to tap into why, what is blocking you and to uncover those issues, download the audio, reach out to Shiraz and get access to that now Shiraz, can you ask you some personal questions? Yes. So what is what a new thing that you have tried recently?

Shiraz Baboo  56:16

It depends how recent you’re talking. So it could

Mostafa Hosseini  56:19

be personal. It could be business could be bigger, a small something could be as as small as a small cup of coffee or flying to moon.

Shiraz Baboo  56:31

Well, the big new thing I’m doing right now is I’m in a speak to sell program that goes for a year. And I realized that I give a give a lot of content, I give a lot of value to people, but not enough people I feel are going from Hey, that was amazing, too.

Hey, that was amazing. Let me buy your program. So now I’m in this program. And the cool thing about it is it’s not just getting me those skills, but part of it is getting me on 100 different stages in the next year. So my next year, you got to be on 100 stages. So I My goal is big time visibility. And

Mostafa Hosseini  57:08

then how many have you crossed off so far? I’m doing this just in 2022. Sorry to cut you off. But

Shiraz Baboo  57:14

yeah, so I started. I actually started on Valentine’s Days when the program started for me. And I have been on probably two stages a week since then. And I think stages week. Yeah. Now because remember, we’ve got virtual stages. So I can go on to a summit and just spend half an hour an hour. And that’s and I’m done. So, yeah, and 100 stages, if I need to stages a week, I’m at 100 right there. It’s not actually that much when you think about it.

Mostafa Hosseini  57:45

I can live with 50 stages this year.

Shiraz Baboo  57:48

Stage three, and if you’ve

Mostafa Hosseini  57:51

got the right stages, I’m happy with that. Yeah, that’d be a good one. All right, perfect. So next question. What are your top two favorite books of all time?

Shiraz Baboo  58:01

Oh, my God. Ready Player One. And oh, the other one would probably be on the self help area.

Mostafa Hosseini  58:19

Something you recommend all the time saying you made a massive impact in your life or business? Yeah.

Shiraz Baboo  58:26

Untethered Soul. Untethered

Mostafa Hosseini  58:28

Soul. Yeah. Love it. What did you like about Untethered Soul? Because I’ve heard that a few times.

Shiraz Baboo  58:36

It really just explains how you like things, we’ll be talking about how you’re holding yourself back how there’s so much more you can you’re capable of and connected to, but you’re just denying that. And so it’s talks about why you’re denying it and how you can really get in touch with it. And the vehicle you’re getting, you’re getting untethered. So you can just do whatever the hell you want. Right? So basically,

Mostafa Hosseini  58:58

the core of what we talked about today. Yep. Love it. What’s one advice that made a massive impact in your life, or business?

Shiraz Baboo  59:11

Again, what we’re talking about when one of my teachers explained, everything is just stories, everything is just stories, and every story can be changed, and every person is running around in their own story, reality that we as we see, it is just the majority vote on what stories are real. That’s it. I’m just gonna You see people doing all sorts of crazy things like how they did that they’re just in a different story than the one you’re in.

Mostafa Hosseini  59:41

Fantastic. Now, sure, as if you had a Facebook or a Google ad, where everyone on the planet with access to the internet could see your message on mobile or on their desktop. What would your message be for the people of Earth?

Shiraz Baboo  1:00:03

Probably be along the same thing that your story is what you’re deciding, although most of the decisions are coming at an unconscious level on a conscious level. But what’s most important right now is be happy. Have fun. No, be silly and laugh. Because a lot of times people treat happiness as an illness and they’re like, What drugs do you want?

What’s wrong with you? So don’t be afraid to be the happiest person in the room. I laugh big belly laughs every day. And I invite you to do the exact same thing because it’s only gonna make your life better.

Mostafa Hosseini  1:00:36

Absolutely. 100%. I follow that philosophy every day. I’m always the silly guy. Funny guy cracking jokes. I do not have a problem looking dumb or stupid. Hence, I don’t have a problem. Me and Coach live on my show. I could be the dumb guy. No problem.

You know. Shiraz, this has been an amazing conversation. Is there anything that you’d like to add that you maybe didn’t mention before we wrap up?

Shiraz Baboo  1:01:08

I think we’re, we’re good. Yeah, just go out there and make your life as enjoyable as possible. Because, you know, whilst we’re here, we’re not really here to work hard all the time. We’re here to have an enjoyable life. So make that the priority.

Mostafa Hosseini  1:01:25

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