Personal Growth: Overcoming Resistance & Aligning for Success – ep 114

Mostafa Hosseini  00:00

Hey welcome to daily confidence for entrepreneurs. In this episode, you will discover how to translate your biggest goal for your subconscious mind. So it knows what to focus on and manifest, how to work with your inner and inner protectors to get permission to fill your big goals, how to identify what your system needs to align fully with your goals. My guest today is Dr. Pamela moss. Welcome, Pamela. Thank

Dr. Pamela Moss  00:31

you. Thank you, Mr. Haha, yeah, and that Those all sound very abstract. We’re gonna make this really real and concrete. So you can see how it’s very useful to be able to work with your subconscious mind so that you can move forward where you’ve been stopped or are struggling just want to say that tastic

Mostafa Hosseini  00:45

So today’s topic is three secrets to align your mind for confidence. Let me do the proper introduction for Pamela. And we’re gonna dive into a very interesting conversation. Dr. Pamela moss is the author of The Best Seller to soul guide to a magical life and host of the blockbuster show. Pamela loves to help entrepreneurs and leaders align your mind.

So you can up level your life and accomplish any goal. For the past 15 years she has worked with clients around the globe, creating breakthroughs like from from six months to no sales to I just close $45,000 in in two weeks. And I was exhausted and workaholic. Now I feel to know I feel so light, safe and happy tingling all over. Welcome habla que stuff. Good to be here. Great to see you. We’re about are you?

Dr. Pamela Moss  01:43

I’m in upstate New York. And actually outside my window. It looks a lot like this. Except it’s fall. So all the trees are orange, and yellow.

Mostafa Hosseini  01:51

Fantastic. What’s the weather like?

Dr. Pamela Moss  01:53

What’s beautiful? It’s great. It’s good. Great time to be here.

Mostafa Hosseini  01:56

Love it, gang. If you have any questions while you’re watching or listening, feel free to put it in the chat box. And we’ll do our best to cover your questions. So Pamela, let’s dive into it. What is your story?

Dr. Pamela Moss  02:08

Well, I started out as an Ivy League academic and homeschooling mom with no idea about being an entrepreneur whatsoever. I never set out to be an entrepreneur, I kind of fell into it. And I have a very long story of how I fell into it, which I’m not going to tell but I will say that simply by by listening within to my own inner nudges about what felt good, and what’s the direction to go. And I ended up on a path I never expected to be on.

And, and it began with a huge breakthrough, which helped me see that I the life I live so far, I was not the life I wanted to live. And I think that many of you have stepped onto this path from something else entirely. And it’s really like you took a turn in the road to get onto the true path for you. And that’s certainly been my experience and following this path of purpose, this tug from your heart, like ooh, we should maybe do that. But when that’d be cool.

That’s that is that is the path to grow like you’ve never grown before in your life. Because this path of being an entrepreneur is probably the biggest way to grow yourself. As a as a being in the capacity as a human being really. So for me, that’s taken many forms. I’ve actually now at this point created several different businesses, but they’ve all been an expression of honestly of seeing the divine and people seeing the highest the highest we can be, and how to step into that and out of our minds, fears and doubts and struggles. And that’s that’s really my life’s work is to set people free to be the fullness of who they are.

Mostafa Hosseini  03:40

Absolutely. So what do you do these days? And who do you serve?

Dr. Pamela Moss  03:46

What I do is what I’ve been doing for a long time, which is the deep work that you need to do to align your subconscious mind. So it’s no longer fighting you. Because anytime we’re struggling, or feel like we’re blocked in some way or that we’re you know, we’re not competent in a word. That’s always because there’s some kind of inner disagreement, inner resistance.

And when we work with the inner resistance, it can change and go away so that we’re freed up to take action where before we couldn’t, and that’s what makes all the difference is just getting out of your own way. So the work I do is to get people out of their own way. And I work a lot with coaches and healers and entrepreneurs with different kinds of consultants. Yeah, just entrepreneurs are some of my favorite people just because they’re willing to take risks and to grow like crazy and to step into the highest version of who they are.

Mostafa Hosseini  04:33

Fantastic. Fantastic. Can you hear me?

Dr. Pamela Moss  04:35

I can hear you fine. Can

Mostafa Hosseini  04:37

you hear me I’m having some issues with my Wi Fi so I don’t know what’s going on today.

Dr. Pamela Moss  04:43

It’s fine and my as far as I can tell you sound good

Dr. Pamela Moss  04:55

except at the moment you’re frozen, which might mean that your Wi Fi is not quiet. Upgrading

Dr. Pamela Moss  05:09

and for those of you who are listening in if you can’t see Wi Fi? Or if you can’t see why if you can’t see me stop at that point, you can see me or you can hear me or there is.

Mostafa Hosseini  05:18

Here I am. So what does sorry about that? What does it align your mind for confidence mean for you? Exactly.

Dr. Pamela Moss  05:25

Yeah. So what it means is getting rid of or transforming all of your inner resistance to being competent, like, it’s too late for me or our I’m not good enough or who I think I am. And as much better than me or I’m an imposter or all the all the stuff we tell ourselves about why we can’t be confident, like, I don’t have a big enough.

I haven’t proven myself or haven’t I haven’t made, you know, $200,000 How am I who am I to do whatever, like all those kinds of things that keep us from being competent, our inner blocks, resistance, whatever. So that’s, that’s what we have to do is work with the resistance, so that you can allow your natural competence when you were a little toddler learning to walk, you didn’t wonder if you had confidence to walk or not, you just went out and did it.

That’s kind of built into it. We just do it. And then somewhere along the line, we get confused and tied ourselves up in knots about why we can’t be confident. So it’s just systematically working through all the inner resistance till it’s gone. And then you’re naturally competent again, because that’s your birthright. Absolutely.

Mostafa Hosseini  06:25

Absolutely. Absolutely. Um, you talked about the three secrets, we talked about sharing three secrets to align your mind for confidence. Yeah, what are the three secrets that you got?

Dr. Pamela Moss  06:40

Okay, so secret number one is the clarity secret. And what I mean by this is, most of the time when we’ve set goals for ourselves or intentions, our subconscious mind doesn’t really know what we’re talking about. It’s too vague, it’s two loads too lofty whatever. So what we have to do to get get firstly have to do is get clear with your subconscious mind what you’re talking about what it is that you want to create an experience.

So there’s a process I guide people through called the six senses to clarity which is which I can guide you through if you want more stuff, or there’ll be a time for that or not, but it’s a very powerful process, to take your idea about what it would be like to be competent in your business or what or what it would be like for you to fulfill a big goal you have and to really help your subconscious mind understand what that looks like, what’s that sounds like what that feels like emotionally and in your body.

Such that you know, on a much deeper level, I can do this like so it’s actually translating a vague to the subconscious mind idea into something much more concrete and physically felt in your body and an emotion that radiates throughout you so it’s a way to take something that’s etheric or not very grounded and make it really solid inside of you so you know it you feel it it’s so real for you.

Mostafa Hosseini  07:55

For sure, for sure for sure. So how what that was so the first one was clarity correct

Dr. Pamela Moss  08:03

clarity, getting your subconscious mind clear about what you want. So it knows knows to focus on that and I can give you maybe I should tell a little quick story so you understand so it makes it more profitable. So I remember years ago a woman one of my workshops the intention for her what she created this new intention for herself to be debt free.

And she wanted to want to be debt free for a long time and until we did this process in this workshop, she didn’t really understand like, what that would really look like it sounds like etc. So she gets to guess who’s she wrote to the workshop with some friends and she got in the backseat she’s gonna take a nap on the way home while they drove her home.

And but what she just activated on a deep level to be debt free, what would that look like? How could I do that? Where’s the option to do this? And because she had gotten this clarity deep down about what it’s like to be debt free, she listened to her friends in the front seat, talking about something she normally would have totally ignored.

And what they were talking about was refinancing their homes and your subconscious mind prompted are like, Hmm, I wonder if I could somehow refinance my home and pay off all my debt. The next day, she taught your banker the day after she had a plan to be debt free after trying to be debt free for years. So that’s, that’s the power of the subconscious mind, you tell a deep level, find how I can do X, Y, or Z.

It will see opportunities all around you because the reticular activating system in your brain looks for what you believe in and finds evidence for that. So when you can change it will show you new opportunities. For

Mostafa Hosseini  09:27

sure, for sure. So I think first step is like you got to know what you want. And then ask your subconscious. Yeah, find ways because once you get clear on what you want, then it you’re almost halfway there. It’s

Dr. Pamela Moss  09:40

just mind will go find opportunities where you that are all around you that right now you can’t see. Because deep down and you don’t believe it’s possible for you. You’re not competent, it can happen.

Mostafa Hosseini  09:51

Interesting. So let’s look at an easy way or I don’t know, not an easy way. What’s the best way to find what you actually want. Ah, that’s a big question to me like,

Dr. Pamela Moss  10:03

say, What do you mean? Yeah.

Mostafa Hosseini  10:06

And I see a lot of people are like lost, right? Like, I’ll give you a business example. We talked about, I talked to people about their marketing, right? And for a very first question is, what do you want? And they’re like, I want lots of lots of business. And then my immediate question is, what is lots of lots of business to you? Do you want 10? Grand?

Or do you want 10 million or 10? billion? Those are all different animals. Yeah. So how do you help people to come to that, to this to the answer to that question of what do I want?

Dr. Pamela Moss  10:42

I love that question. So the answer in my, in my humble opinion is not come from your head, actually, it comes from a deeper place within you, it comes from your heart, what you truly want comes from your heart. And that’s whether you feel like I want to build a $10 million business, because I see all the ways I can make a difference in the world, the impact, blah, blah, blah, that that’s kind of your head.

But the desire to help people on a bigger level, or make a bigger impact in the world is more the heart level of it. Like, that’s what I want, because it’s going to help, it’s going to make a difference. If you’re just coming from, I want to impress people, or I want to pay a lot of money, that’s pretty much in your head.

And it’s not necessarily convincing to you on a deep level, like your heart doesn’t necessarily feel like that’s a great thing to do. So that’s it deeper level, like what you want on a deeper level than your normal awareness.

Mostafa Hosseini  11:31

100%. Something I’ve done in the past is I have I actually I have asked my question myself, like, what do I want? And I sit down and then I write down whatever comes to mind? I want this, I want that. Or I’ll ask him more specific question. What do I want with x? Yeah, X main, my marketing myself, my relationship, my car, my house? Whatever?

Yeah. So and then once you give yourself enough time, then like you said, your, your body, your gut, your heart? Yes, it will come up with the answer. And maybe not immediately, but eventually, you will know.

Dr. Pamela Moss  12:08

Yeah. And part of the process is the way that I teach people vision boards is, a lot of times people have been taught to think that our two pictures of things I want my my vision board. But actually those things that you want, are actually symbols for what you really want, which is how you will feel when you have those things, who you need to be to have those things.

So all this all this, all this deeper stuff about what we want is often encoded around us in symbols, like, Oh, if I have that car, now I’ll be happy. Oh, by convocation there, then I’ll be happy or whatever. But those are just symbols for how you want to really feel. And maybe you don’t have to work to get that car to feel that happiness and pride. Maybe you can get it a lot faster, or cheaper, or some other way

Mostafa Hosseini  12:50

to represent. Yeah. So the first one was clarity, what’s the second one,

Dr. Pamela Moss  12:55

the second one is permission. And that may seem like a weird thing. But lots of people I meet are actually blocking themselves from having what they want. Which means there is a part of them that thinks, oh, that does not sound like a good idea that’s going to take us way outside of our comfort zone, No way, I’m going to stop you from moving forward, that’s just not okay, it’s not safe.

So our inner protectors, everybody has some, you might think of it as your inner critic, maybe your image image protector, or, you know, whatever, there’s different forms your inner rebellious teenager, whatever it is, there are parts of us often that stop us from having what we want. And they stop us because they think it’s not safe. And the way to move forward is you have to actually work with them to listen to the fear to listen to the rebellious part of you to listen to the scared four year old, whatever it is, and see what it needs to be able to give you permission to move forward.

And that may sound weird, but you can actually have a dialogue with a part of you that’s holding you back. That will set you free to move forward in ways you can’t even imagine was when it was blocking you. And I can certainly give lots of examples of that. But it’s a very powerful way to create a breakthrough very quickly as to

Mostafa Hosseini  14:02

where you do what what would be what would the example be like? Tell us about what like the part of you that is holding you holding you back.

Dr. Pamela Moss  14:10

So I’ll tell you, I’ll tell you example, from a recent entrepreneur I work with this is somebody who has had a very successful business but was unable to make much money. Like she just I remember when she came to me, she had been doing retreats for a long time. And she was she was doing a summit and people were opting in like was always great, but she was having hardly any money. Like I think like five people signed up for the next level to the VIP level for Summit.

And nobody was interested was buying her program that anybody and she was so frustrated and sad because she put all this time and love into it. And we worked with the partner that was blocking her financially because everywhere in her life she was really stuck financially even though she looked on the outside quite successful because she had lots of fuel. She was invited all over the place. She was doing great work. And this part of her we talked to it said it’s not safe for you to make money, blah So you’ve never had much money.

And when you have had money, people tried to take things away from you, they you lost relationships, it did not go well. So it’s much safer just to not have money. And we had a conversation with a partner to see what would it be? What would make it safe for her to move forward? And what she and the partner said, well, she’d have to have a much more solid foundation so that you wouldn’t be knocked over when people say, Well, I don’t I you know, you just couldn’t get all rich and fancy now I’m gonna, I’m gonna hate you, whatever that interfere was.

And we’d work through it all. And by the end of the conversation, the parts that okay, I gave you permission to receive a lot more money. And in that same Summit, this is going on over the course of a couple of weeks. After that she had she went from going like, I think she had like four days she was so like a $49 upgrade or whatever. And she, she made like, $40,000 I don’t remember the exact amount, but it was it was so so much more because she just opened up to receive people trying to come into our programs for her and herself saying, no, no, not safe. We’re just gonna make we’re gonna sabotage this. So she didn’t even know how she was sabotaging it, it was very obvious when she was not sabotaging it.

Mostafa Hosseini  16:07

Yeah, I think a lot of times, we don’t consciously know how we are sabotaging.

Dr. Pamela Moss  16:14

Yes, exactly. We’re mostly not. I mean, she would love people that rarely have some kind of a money block, it’s a really common thing for entrepreneurs. And it can be in different levels, you know, whatever time we go to a new level, we are always going to feel some kind of inner resistance, because that’s our upper limit. And as soon as we try to go above it, we feel like that’s not safe.

I’ve never been there before. So that’s the inner protector, saying it’s not safe, and you’ve got to work with it. So it gives permission for you to be at that next level. Otherwise, you’re going to just struggle, struggle struggle all the time.

Mostafa Hosseini  16:47

So I’m in our car talk and the hidden the hidden. The hidden thought or paradigm that is like holding us back. Needs to be uncovered and dealt with. Exactly.

Dr. Pamela Moss  17:04

And we usually, it’s wrong. Like we’d like you know, like, like entered like fear or like lack of confidence. We’d like we think that’s bad. I want it to stop and go away. But the only way it’s going to go away as we listen to it and see what conditions it has that make it safe to move forward.

Mostafa Hosseini  17:21

Absolutely gang, if you’re watching or listening. If you have questions for Pamela, put it in a comment and we’ll try to cover it. Absolutely,

Dr. Pamela Moss  17:30

yeah. Yeah, that I have my own show, which is the blockbuster show and Mustapa has has been a guest, which sometimes I call a guinea pig. You can’t really ask people to be real and vulnerable. But it’s really interesting how there’s nothing more interesting to me than than the human mind. And

Mostafa Hosseini  17:47

Alan says, building our confidence is very important. Years ago, I had an aha moment about it. And it followed me ever since that

Dr. Pamela Moss  17:56

is super cool. Oh, if you care to share in the chat, I would really love to know what your aha moment was. Because that may be useful for other people to hear as well.

Mostafa Hosseini  18:03

Absolutely. Elon, if you’re watching or listening, if you could share your aha moment, that would be great. So, so the second part was permission, what is the third part?

Dr. Pamela Moss  18:14

The third part is alignment. And by alignment, I just mean all levels and layers of you are like it’s true. I absolutely incompetent all the way down or whatever it is that you want to be true. And that’s usually that means like to get clarity. So the subconscious mind understands, oh, that’s what I want, I get it. Now I can look for evidence for it. And then the permission is I give you permission to move ahead.

So it’s safe. And the alignment is this anything else that your system needs to just have it be true now, because when you are when you’re when you are totally aligned, your goal is true. Now, it’s not something somewhere to get to. It’s something that you feel is true within you already. And you simply take the inspired actions with the aligned actions to bring the inner competence out into the world. And if that makes sense or not.

Mostafa Hosseini  18:57

Sure. Can you elaborate more on that, please?

Dr. Pamela Moss  19:00

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So alignment is I’ll give a simple example of alignment that most people can relate to like if anybody’s ever been married, and ever been in a wedding ceremony, there was a moment when you said two words that caused a profound shift in you the two words were I do and the reason they cause a shift is for some people, they feel the joy or they start getting teary with joy. Other times when they when they say I do they go, Oh my god, what have I done?

Either way, you’ve created an inner shift in yourself because you told yourself ahead of time, the moment I say those two words, I shift from being single to married. So that’s an alignment, it causes a shift, a shift such that you are no longer who you were a moment ago you are you are a new you with you’re aligned with whatever the new reality is, whether you like it or not, and alignment.

The way that I do is we can do it very consciously by just finding out the exact pathway that your system needs to be fully aligned with whatever it is you want. So the first two steps recording permission. But after that, it’s whatever thing whatever else you need to have it be true.

Mostafa Hosseini  20:05

So what are users asking? What are your thoughts on some subliminal programming while while you sleep?

Dr. Pamela Moss  20:13

That is a great question. Well, it depends a lot on what the subliminal programming is that if you buy subliminal programming, CD or whatever, it’s it depends like they’re pitched at different levels. Like it could be a very general broad level, it could be a level that’s, that’s more specific, specific for certain aspects of that. I guess the bottom line is, I would really want to know what’s in the subliminals? Because if they’re not aligned with what you need, you’ll create inner conflict.

Mostafa Hosseini  20:41

For sure, for sure. So Pamela, before, so let’s say that you know what you want? Let’s say that you give yourself permission to do it. How do you know if that thing is aligned with you or not? Maybe before you get started?

Dr. Pamela Moss  20:55

Oh, you mean whether the goal itself is aligned with what you are? Or not? Yeah, let’s

Mostafa Hosseini  20:58

say that I want to get something. Let make some something up. But let’s say that you want to buy a certain type of car. Yeah. Right. And you want to know if, if this is allowed, or not? Because you would say, I would say, I don’t want to go through all this trouble. Go reach this goal and be like, Ah, this really doesn’t mean anything.

Dr. Pamela Moss  21:20

That’s a really great question is why so many successful people feel kind of empty inside because they’ve gone after success after another after another, but it’s not touching at all what really matters to them? Right. Great question. And the way that I would say is everybody has the capacity to tap into your own deep inner yes and no.

And, and I teach people, two methods that work for a lot of people, I have free videos on my YouTube thing that teach you how to use it, the two tools that help you tap into your own enter yes, and no one of them is using a pendulum. And the other one is use a form of self muscle testing or testing is also called muscle checking. That and there’s there’s lots of ways that you can do self muscle testing.

But fundamentally, there are ways to tap into your own inner yes and no, it makes every decision so much easier. Is it? And the question I would ask is, is it safe and appropriate in the highest good for me to buy this car? And I just would test it that with my hands or with my pendulum? And it says no, I would respect that. It’s just enough to get to a lot of complicated thinking. Just need to tap into your own inner yes and no. And that’s your gift.

Mostafa Hosseini  22:27

Sorry. So what if I, what if I asked my question, is this? Do I want to do this or not? Yeah. And there is not an immediate response. What

Dr. Pamela Moss  22:34

do we do? First of all, what question do I want to do this or not? It’s not a good question. Because it contains yes and no in it. Like it’s so it’s, you need a question was a clear yes or no, that boat? So that would be part of this? And the question I would say is, do I want to do this? Maybe not the most powerful question that was powerful question, we’d be more like, is it safe?

That’s asking the inner protectors appropriate, and my highest good to do blah, to do whatever it is? So that that question is, what do I want to do? Like, different parts of you want different stuff? It’s just not a very easy question to answer with yes or no?

Mostafa Hosseini  23:11

Is it? Is there another question that would, that would kind of help us uncover that alignment? Yeah.

Dr. Pamela Moss  23:17

Yeah. So another question is all Israel I’m seeing them not as questions but as statements because it’s easier to get a clear yes and no in response to that, although you can do it as a question too. But then another one I use a lot is, all parts of me are ready, willing and able to align for this goal. And if that means, like, all of us with all of you is ready to have it be true, boom, that’s true.

 Now, then you maybe just have to do a simple thing like say I do or turn on a light switch or something really simple to have it just be true now. And if it’s what Yeah, I don’t know what I just said was clear to you or not, but that’s okay. Yep.

Mostafa Hosseini  23:55

Oh, the question again, was, are all parts of me ready and willing and able to do

Dr. Pamela Moss  24:01

to, to align exactly Yeah, exactly. And if they’re not, if you get a note of that and you need you know, oh, I have some inner resistance I need to work with the inner resistance. For

Mostafa Hosseini  24:10

sure. And I’ve done the process gang with Pamela where you ask that question and you would just wait for an for your inner response.

Dr. Pamela Moss  24:17

Exactly. Exactly. Like it’s really curious obviously, in the staff and people listening I’ve so many times work with people with subconscious parts of them. I’m not putting them into hypnosis, we’re not do anything fancy. You just ask them to relax and notice there’s a part of them that’s resisting whatever they want.

And when you do that, and you actually can have you have a conversation like with Mostafa, there was a part of him that’s just like, you know, you can’t stop working you just gonna have to work yourself right into the grave, my friend. There’s no rest for you.

Mostafa Hosseini  24:46

Let’s work on something that I’ve got. I have going

Dr. Pamela Moss  24:48

good. Let’s do that. That’s more than abstract. Yeah. So

Mostafa Hosseini  24:52

I have a I have a book that is in progress. It’s probably 60 70% Done. Me Some need some polishing and some editing. So get it out to the editors and get it out. Yeah. But I haven’t done it for the past two months, and it would have been done by now actually wrote a journal about it. Like if I spent an hour for the past two months, it would have been beyond done.

And it would have been out there and doing what it’s supposed to do. Yeah. But I haven’t done it. Yeah. And you and I know that just so you know, the background star I know. It’s, it’s very well leveraged, it’s gonna help me with marketing expertise, credibility, lead gen. And, oh, did you lose me? No, I’m right here. I can hear you. Okay. And it’s gonna help me with all that, but I haven’t done? Yes. Yet. Like, I got to start it. And I made some major progress. And then I dropped it. Yeah.

Dr. Pamela Moss  25:49

So I can feel what’s going on. We can visit. So there is a part of you that is concerned, when you have all this leverage when you’re you’re going to be at your next level, like beyond anything you ever had been before. And that means, oh, you’re going beyond who you’ve known yourself to be that what’s going to happen then are your pizza with so.

So we’ll find we can find out by asking the part of you that has been distracting you and keeping you from doing it. Do you want to do that you believe to play? Yeah, let’s do it. So just notice there is a part of you that’s been distracting you and keeping you from working on it, even though you could have done it really easily in the time you’ve had. So is that part so you were that there’s that part of you? That’s been saying, look over there? Nope, we’re not doing this.

We’ve got so much other stuff to do. Which part of me is that? Yeah. You don’t have to necessarily know just notice that there is a part of you that there is a part of me that is distracting me. Yeah. Okay, great. So in a moment, I’m going to ask to speak to that part of you. And all you got to do is let your imagination your intuition respond, and just see what comes out of your mouth. Like let yourself be surprised. Are you going to try that?

Mostafa Hosseini  26:54

What am I what am I going to say here? Now?

Dr. Pamela Moss  26:55

I’m going to ask questions to that part of you that’s been distracting you preventing you from finishing your your book draft? Yeah, let’s do it. And you’re just going to respond to my questions. That’s all we’re going to. Okay. So I would love to speak to the part of Mustafa that’s been stopping him from finishing the manuscript for his book. Are you there?

Mostafa Hosseini  27:14

Yes. And right now I have the most energy activity. My gut. Hmm, very good. God is the part.

Dr. Pamela Moss  27:22

Very good. So thank you. So. So am I addressing your gut is this my staff has got who’s who’s pretty much okay, fantastic. So gut, may I and whatever other parts might be associated. Can I ask you some questions about what’s going on? Yes. Thank you.

So are you why are you stopping Mustapha from finishing his book draft? What are you worried about? What am I worried about? Yeah, just pay attention to your gut. It’s telling you I’m worried. Like it’s it’s diving activity. What is that about? What are you afraid of? What might happen? When Mustapa finishes the draft and gets it published? And it’s out there?

Mostafa Hosseini  28:18

I’m not coming out with a fear. Okay.

Dr. Pamela Moss  28:20

Yeah. So it doesn’t have to be okay. So that’s fine. So just notice still like, like the gut, you feeling the energy in your gut right now?

Mostafa Hosseini  28:28

It was it kind of went away.

Dr. Pamela Moss  28:28

Here’s what happened to stop it. You didn’t want to stay with it, you came up to your head, and then we’re looking at it in your head again. So I’m just gonna invite you to notice if so this is this, this requires a certain amount of trust, trust that you go where you don’t usually go. So.

Mostafa Hosseini  28:42

Yeah. I was looking for an answer when, when he asked the question of what are you afraid is gonna happen?

Dr. Pamela Moss  28:48

Yeah. So don’t worry about that. I’m going to come back to connect you again with the part of you that has concerns about your book being that okay. So once again, I would love to speak to them as part of Mustapa has concerns about him finishing this book, and it’s been distracting him and doing whatever else he doesn’t.

So I’d love to talk to you part of the staff that has concerns about finishing this book. Are you there? Yes. Great. And where are you? Is Mustafa feeling you somewhere in the body? Are you? Do you have a location in the body or not?

Mostafa Hosseini  29:20

Yeah, right now I’m

Dr. Pamela Moss  29:21

feeling in my legs. Okay. Like it’s fantastic. So what is that feeling your legs actually just tune into it with? And what does it feel like? What is the feeling?

Mostafa Hosseini  29:29

A lot of work that I have to do? Oh,

Dr. Pamela Moss  29:32

it’s a lot of work to do this? Is that what you’re feeling?

Mostafa Hosseini  29:35

That’s what it feels like. Okay, good.

Dr. Pamela Moss  29:37

And go. Although,

Mostafa Hosseini  29:39

although I know consciously that it’s only probably one or two hours a day for about 20 days. I have figured out the math and it’s not actually a ton of work.

Dr. Pamela Moss  29:51

So here’s the thing that I’m just going to demonstrate with this app has been a demonstration of an argument within himself because he keeps wanting to go back to his conscious mind. I know how to do this is totally logical. We can do this. That’s the point we want to touch the part of you that is not

Mostafa Hosseini  30:05

totally logical. Yeah, okay. Okay, fair enough. Yeah,

Dr. Pamela Moss  30:09

so you’re wanting to stay here, because this is your comfort zone, I’m asking you to go out of your comfort zone into the part of you, you’ve been resisting, who’s been resisting your goals preventing you for doing it. So when, so you don’t have to, you’re thinking with your head? Well, I’m gonna ask you to do this to relax, just relax, relax, take a nice deep breath in. There’s no pressure, we’re just gonna see if we can get somewhere with this.

Now, maybe we can maybe we can just experiment, no big deal. So just going to notice that if you just close down your eyes, and you’re paying attention to your body, you have felt in your legs and also in your gut, some energy that comes up in response to we want to speak to the part of you that has concerns about you finishing your book. And the first thing we got was that, oh, it’s going to be too much work. Conscious mind thinks, oh, no, it doesn’t have to be.

Thank you conscious mind. Just you’re gonna sit in the backseat for wives. Voice. So. So once again, I’m going to ask this, notice that there is something in you that when I say, you know, the part that has concern to the part that’s resisting, that’s the part we want to talk to you because it holds the key to moving forward. Your conscious mind does not hold the key. It doesn’t know how to do this. So are you there part of Mustapha? Who has concerns about getting this book done? Yes. Okay. Thank you. And are you stopping? Mustapha? From getting it done?

Mostafa Hosseini  31:41

Yes.

Dr. Pamela Moss  31:42

And why are you stopping him from getting it done? I

Mostafa Hosseini  31:48

just don’t feel like doing the work.

Dr. Pamela Moss  31:49

Okay. You just don’t want to do the work? What would you rather do instead of the work?

Mostafa Hosseini  31:58

I do I feel like doing stuff doing work. Yeah, handing out someone else to do it. Handing

Dr. Pamela Moss  32:03

that to someone else to do it. Is that something Mr. Robot could do? We could hand the book over to someone else to do it from here. Yeah,

Mostafa Hosseini  32:08

but it needs some of my input before I handed out someone. Okay.

Dr. Pamela Moss  32:13

And you’re just like, I don’t want to hurt or something else going on for you?

Mostafa Hosseini  32:21

Know, I want to do it. You want to because I want to do it? There’s there’s no doubt about that. I know the benefits. Okay, so

Dr. Pamela Moss  32:29

what’s just been a

Mostafa Hosseini  32:31

little lazy with it.

Dr. Pamela Moss  32:32

Okay, and lazy. I would call a judgment. Lazy is resistance. It’s like, I don’t really want it. Exactly. So I’d love to know, understand more about this resistance. Like, what exactly is the resistance? Like, what are you? Why are you Why are you pushing back and not, you know, distracting Mustapha keeping him from doing this thing that he knows is important.

Mostafa Hosseini  32:53

So what’s coming up is I’ve had other things to do. Okay. And is that really the reason? That’s what’s coming up?

Dr. Pamela Moss  33:04

Okay. So other things to do? Are those other things still going on? Now? They all was gone. Oh, the other things will always go out. Well, that sounds like he’s never going to be able to finish the book that they’re always gonna go on. Is that what you want? No. Okay, it’s not what you want. What do you want?

Mostafa Hosseini  33:24

I want to get this out and finish it up. And And

Dr. Pamela Moss  33:27

are we talking to the part of Mr.

Mostafa Hosseini  33:30

Could it be that I actually don’t have a ton of resistance towards it? Actually look as like when I looked into my gut feeling, and then it disappeared. I feel like I actually don’t have a ton of resistance. I just haven’t got to it. No. And the other thing is, like, a lot of times when I get started, I’m like, Oh, this is actually good. Yeah. You know.

So as I just need to get started. Yeah. So what’s it gonna take to just get started? I just could spend 10 minutes on it today.

Dr. Pamela Moss  34:01

Well, have you spent 10 minutes on it today? Would that tell you Oh, wow. I’m started getting started again. I’m back in the game. Yes. Fantastic. Yeah, I’m

Mostafa Hosseini  34:09

excited actually.

Dr. Pamela Moss  34:11

Mustapha, what you just did, as you looked to see, because you felt there was some resistance and you realize, as you looked at it kind of melted away, that you didn’t really need it. It just you just kind of been letting it play around the background and you don’t need to. So I heard you say, you’re going to start today and going to write for 10 minutes.

And you’re going to set yourself free in the process of doing that. Like I don’t I I’m actually free to move ahead. I just thought I wasn’t free. Is Is that true? Yeah.

Mostafa Hosseini  34:37

Yeah. So yeah, I feel I feel like so a lot of times when I have a fear when I step on, in or onto the fear, yes, it disappears like oh, this is actually I think that’s one of those cases where he I believe, I have I’ve ignored it maybe for a little bit. Maybe I’ve been busy with other stuff.

Yeah, but oh my god, I gotta get into my book. So it’s actually not that big of a deal. Actually, I actually speak my books. I don’t I’m not a writer. I’m a speaker. I do that very easily. That’s fantastic. Right? So I could I could, yeah, I promise I’m gonna spend 10 minutes on it. Oh,

Dr. Pamela Moss  35:15

my awesome. If you want to text me afterwards and say I did it, I will celebrate with

Mostafa Hosseini  35:20

I will put it as a comment on the on the show. And I’ll let you guys

Dr. Pamela Moss  35:23

know. Good. Yeah, great work. A lot of times let’s fear disappears, because it’s false evidence appearing real. It’s not real. When

Mostafa Hosseini  35:31

we Yeah, like. Another thing I’ve noticed is like, when you when I mentioned like, when when you? Yeah, have you read the game of life, how to how to play it, but

Dr. Pamela Moss  35:45

Florence Scovel, whatever it is called machine.

Mostafa Hosseini  35:47

Yeah. And I think I think in there, and if I’m not mistaken, she talks about when you step into the fear, the fear disappears. Yes, a lot of times, because I just I’m on a live show, I’m like, let’s step, let’s step up the game and see what’s going on here. Yes. And it’s like, it’s actually not that big of a deal. I just need to open up the document. It’s probably two or three clicks. away from it. Yeah, my Google Drive, and I’ll be on it. I promise, I will do it.

And here’s another thing I’m gonna do. I want to promise live on the show. Yep, I’m going to spend an hour every day for the next, I think I’ve calculated about 20 days or so for me to finish. I’m gonna spend an hour for the next 20 days, it’s to to get my book done.

So by November 20. It should be hopefully done by November 12. I mean, okay, I’ll give myself a month time so that I could, yeah, get it done. And I’ll let everyone know, you’ll get a book.

Dr. Pamela Moss  36:49

And this is so great. Because you’ve just created some accountability for yourself, which would benefit from we’re more likely to do things to look good to other people we are to do just for ourselves. So

Mostafa Hosseini  37:00

that’s one of the things that I’ve done on my show is to bring experts like yourself, to have some breakthroughs, get coached live and create your accountability. Instead of just me ask questions, and just, yeah, not having to do much for me. So

Dr. Pamela Moss  37:13

yeah, and I love that you’re taking it making it you’re, you’re you’re up leveling is this show is daily competence for you.

Mostafa Hosseini  37:20

Absolutely. Cool. So at Pamela, yeah, I think people just witnessed you working with me in a gang, if you just joined or if you haven’t seen this part, just go back and see how we work through me writing and creating my book. And so you’re talking about how you could guarantee breakthroughs every time? Yeah. Tell us about how that happens, despite the fact that you just did.

Dr. Pamela Moss  37:41

We just you just did have a break, though. Usually, it’s like I’m doing wedding before you’re like, oh, no, I’m not doing it. Right there when you stop things, that place of stuckness. So basically, the way that we can guarantee them is because when we’re stepping outside our conscious mind, we get a new perspective, whether it’s the subconscious mind or the superconscious mind, higher guidance we’re getting or the body, whatever we’re talking to this not the conscious mind, we get a new perspective. And the new perspective is what allows us to move forward.

Is that simple, and I can guarantee you have a breakthrough, because you haven’t looked at it from that place. That new perspective, soon as you do, boom, you have a breakthrough. What

Mostafa Hosseini  38:22

happens when people have blockages and they’re just not letting? Well, then it takes more for themselves to like, yeah,

Dr. Pamela Moss  38:30

yeah. So then there’s, then there’s a deeper process. So there’s no we can still I mean, there’s, I have a very wide deep toolbox. They take many different kinds of processes, there’s

Mostafa Hosseini  38:39

hit them. On my menu, I’m joking. What I mean is I hit them with different tools and see what works, what

Dr. Pamela Moss  38:50

I do is I ask their system, what’s the best tool to use, and what’s the right order to do them, since a lot of times the permission or the first two, but sometimes people have to start with removing negative energy, like we just have to pull that out of them before they can even begin to get hurt, because they’re holding a lot of stuck energy from the past. Other times, it’s like they’re saying they need to transfer they need to transform an old deep old bow or agreement they’ve made with themselves that no longer works for them.

And there’s a karmic contract, we reading process for that there’s, there’s a whole bunch of processes and just by asking, we can see what you need. And that’s that, that gives you the new perspective that can spur you out from where your, your stuckness is,

Mostafa Hosseini  39:26

which I think this is a good segue to to my next question, which is you talk about five R’s. Removing resistance, yes. What are those five R’s?

Dr. Pamela Moss  39:37

Okay, so we just demonstrated one of them which is releasing so releasing is when you just let go of some some energy basically, that you don’t need anymore. And we do that naturally as mammals, you know, we, we yawn, we stretch, we laugh, we cry, we just we naturally know how to release, release a feels great. The only problem about releasing is it doesn’t last usually it depends but a lot of times you know you You build back up again with things that don’t make you feel so.

So when you can release it again, so that’s releasing is the first or the second are is, is reframing it, seeing it from a new perspective. And there’s all the various tools we talked about to help you have a new perspective on it. As soon as you have a new perspective on it, you can often move forward where you couldn’t before. So that’s reframing it seeing a new way to view the situation or the problem. The third R is replacing, which is actually when you go into the subconscious mind. And you have, for example, a dialogue with the subconscious part, or you, you remove some negative energy and replace it with positive energy.

 These are ways that you actually change your programming on a deep level. So when you change the program and deep level, you replace old stories, old narratives old patterns with more healthy and productive and satisfying patterns. And that’s, that’s huge replacing them. There’s lots of ways to do that. Then the fourth are, I’m trying to remember if anything, replacing Oh, really result when we call it resolve. So resolve is the one where something’s really hard, you just resolved to keep moving forward. And if you do that, you will eventually create a breakthrough to like, I remember the first time I ever did public speaking, I stood up here in the room with a microphone.

And my voice was like quavering. My face was hot, I was sure I was bright red. And I would just, but I really had a message. So I just said it anyway. And then I sat down, I was shaking, like literally shaking. But I felt so good. And people actually applauded. I was like, Oh, my God, I did not die. I could do this again. So that’s resolved when you do something that’s really hard for you. But it creates a breakthrough, just because you’re willing to do the thing that’s hard, it makes it easier next time. And then the fifth error is realizing, and realizing this is really where you just have kind of an awakening moment when you realize, Wow, I just made all that shit up.

It’s not real, I don’t need to keep bringing that forward anymore. Or that’s just an old story. Or sometimes you realize, like, that’s not who I am with, like the the woman who was a workaholic, what she did is she realized she thought she was her work, like that’s her identity. But she was now who I am, it’s my heart. Totally different place to come from. So that’s that’s the five R’s. In a nutshell. They’re just different ways to remove, release, replace, resolve, and realize that realize,

Mostafa Hosseini  42:16

love it. So releasing the energy, reframing it and getting a new perspective, replacing an inner sobs in your subconscious having a conversation to replace let go of the negative energy and replace it with positive energy. resolve it by moving forward, checking it off and feeling good. And realizing the fact that maybe you made some some Well,

Dr. Pamela Moss  42:40

realizing sometimes it’s just like, like you realize all the whole darn thing that was such a big struggle, you just don’t need to do it anymore. Like I just don’t have to.

Mostafa Hosseini  42:47

I just realized that I actually don’t have any resistance to just spend some time on it and get it done.

Dr. Pamela Moss  42:53

Yeah, fantastic. We can hear in your voice, you’re totally aligned with it now or before there was

Mostafa Hosseini  42:58

the fact of the matter is, I mean, while we’re on the on the call, I’m Iranian Canadian, and there’s a lot going on in Iran right now. Women uprising and claiming their rights and whatnot. So I’m very concerned with with that. Yeah. Especially in the past three weeks. It’s it’s becoming a month soon. So that’s part of it. And there’s been like business and other stuff. It’s not that I didn’t want to do it. It’s just I’ve been consumed with other stuff.

Dr. Pamela Moss  43:25

I guess. There’s a lot going on in the world, like and I know. Yeah. And around looking at the woman who was killed and cetera, like that. A lot of people and then Iranian government, things outside agitators, et cetera, et cetera. But 100% Yeah, so that’s the world is full of all kinds of things going on.

And sometimes, sometimes we do accomplish a goal, we have to sort of say, I’m not going to pay attention that right now. You know, I just can’t give my attention to that right now. And other times, it’s just like, is important to me to get my intention to that. It’s more a question of focus, like what you want and need to focus on? Yeah,

Mostafa Hosseini  43:58

absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. Hammer piece, tell us about your gift, the alignment assessment.

Dr. Pamela Moss  44:06

Yeah. So if you have some kind of a goal that you’re fine you’re struggling a bit with or it’s something that is important to you, and you’re you’re not quite making it happen, despite your best efforts. My soul alignment assessment walks you through both first of all, how to tap into your own inner yes and no, and then how to do an assessment to see what inner work you need for that goal to be true.

So if you’ve been struggling for a while with something, it’s not happening, you’ll find out exactly what you need to do with the soul alignment assessment. That’s that’s the power of it. They’ll help you know exactly what there is for you to do. And that will, it’s very liberating to know when you’ve been struggling for a long time. Oh, here’s what I need to do to move forward.

Mostafa Hosseini  44:45

fantastic fantastic so gang if you if you’re watching or listening, the link to the soul alignment assessment is in the comments of the show on social media and it will be in the show notes on the podcast. So I go there to download this online assessment as I mean, getting into alignment assessment and whether you’re aligned with what you’re doing or what you want to do is kind of important because I think if you’re not aligned with what you want to do, that’s probably part of the reason where things are not getting done.

Yes, we should. And you’d be you would have a hard time, probably some resistance and blockages and anxiety and frustration and whatnot. But once you figure out the alignment piece, I think things are gonna get done a lot easier and faster. Yeah. Can I ask you some personal questions?

Dr. Pamela Moss  45:39

Go for it. All right, what’s

Mostafa Hosseini  45:40

a new thing you’ve tried recently?

Dr. Pamela Moss  45:42

Anything I’ve tried recently, like, just in general, or something more specific or

Mostafa Hosseini  45:45

small, could be a cup of coffee could be tomorrow.

Dr. Pamela Moss  45:51

I don’t know if it’s a totally new thing. Well, I’ll just say what’s present for me so. So beginning of the year, I signed up to go, I paid I made a down payment on a retreat in Hawaii called the song of your life retreat, which really spoke to me is a place to free up my creativity and actually write music and perform it.

And, and then as time went along, I realized, like I started had some immune resistance. And by the time I came, like, I really have to see in or out, I was like, Oh, I don’t have the money for it. Oh, I don’t know. And, but and then I just had an internship for like, I don’t know how I’m gonna do it, but I’m gonna be there. And as soon as I looked, I looked at my I forgot, I had a bunch of miles on my airline thing. And they were exactly the right amount to fly there. And back, I was like, Oh, my God. Yes, I have, and I got the ticket. And the guy who was doing it made it super easy for me to participate.

And it just, it was like, everything got aligned, and in a way that, like, I was feeling like I was ready to give up on it. And just, you know, sort of sad about it. But it’s, I guess the thing, it’s not exactly new, but the process of surrendering, and to saying I don’t know how this is going to happen. But this is this is my intention.

This is my heart’s desire is really a powerful one for me to just let the universe life whatever we call that to support me too. And so many times it has it’s, it’s not new, but I keep coming back to remembering like, Oh, God, I don’t have the struggle. That’s right, I forgot I don’t have to struggle. I can actually just say, if this is a line, this is something I really want. It will happen some one way or another. And I’m just going to be open to that. And I’m going to hold to the to the purity of my desire for that.

And, and take whatever aligned action I can take and just let the way be shown to me. So all of that’s caused us a new thing, but it feels every time. I forget, like all of us, we forget who we are, we forget how powerful we are. And then it just suddenly comes back. I’m like, oh my god, again, I get to create my life instead of just be the victim of it.

Mostafa Hosseini  47:54

Absolutely. Love it. Love it. Give me two of your favorite books.

Dr. Pamela Moss  47:57

Oh my goodness. Well, actually, Florence Scovel Shinn, I really love life and you know the game of life and how to play it and her other writings. She’s she’s just a great, very awake, very funny. Lot of truth bombs, and and very in a fun way. Actually, it’s a lot of fun at the moment. Let’s see what else. While actually at the moment, I’m just reading a Davis, a Doris book. It’s just, it’s just he’s just so darn funny.

Like I’m sitting there I’ve snorting and giggling to myself, my partner keeps saying what are you doing? I don’t know, I like to read a lot of things. And giving myself permission to read something just for fun is really awesome. Because a lot of times, I feel like I don’t have time to

Mostafa Hosseini  48:45

absolutely guarantee this this book, The Game of Life and how to play it. I’ve probably listened to this book a good 10 times by now. I’m just gonna grab the link and I’m going to put it here in a comment. Game of Life and how to play it. Yeah, if you’re listening or watching later on, go on YouTube and search for for the game of life and how to play it. And it’s, it’s a video from the MasterCase society on YouTube. And you click on the link that he put in the show comments.

Dr. Pamela Moss  49:20

What’s what’s so great about it is it literally is holding a higher consciousness, like everything she’s saying is coming from a higher consciousness, she sees the higher perspective and holds that for people. That’s how she works with people just holding the higher perspective for them all the time. And, and people have miracles because she’s, she’s helping them see like this, you know, the things you think are in your way or not in your way, and she just sort of talks them through it. So it’s just a really powerful thing.

If you’re struggling listening to something that’s at a higher level of consciousness is so helpful to remind you that, you know, the struggle is not real in some very important way. Like really you are very capable of creating anything you want. And that’s, that’s what I would call alignment is being in a place where things happen in flow where you can create whatever you want. We all have that capacity, we just forget that we do.

Mostafa Hosseini  50:10

Absolutely. Absolutely. What’s one advice that made a big impact on business or life?

Dr. Pamela Moss  50:23

You know, actually, just that you don’t have to, like you don’t have to, I don’t have to carry on old struggles from the past. I don’t have to bring my I don’t have to suffer, you know, have struggle in certain areas of my life, like I could actually just let go of it. Like, all relationships, or whatever it is, is causing tension.

 It’s a really amazing thing for me to realize, like, I just don’t have to, like, I don’t have to stay in that place. Nobody does actually, when you just realize you don’t have to. It’s so liberating. Because we don’t The reason we keep having struggle is because we keep generating it. Like, you know what, stop? I don’t have to, yeah,

Mostafa Hosseini  51:02

yeah, a lot of stuff like you’re talking about, I have to do this, I have to do that. Blah, blah, blah. And then you’re like, I don’t have to, we don’t have to do this, this sun that comes out. In the morning. I’m like, I have to do this, this, this and that. And then I’m like, not really.

Dr. Pamela Moss  51:22

It’s really funny when we realize how crazy the mind is making up all these long, complicated stories and things we have to do and blah, blah, blah. But we really don’t have to.

Mostafa Hosseini  51:31

Absolutely, if you had a Facebook or Google Ad where everyone around the world could see with access to the Internet, what would your message be for the people of Earth?

Dr. Pamela Moss  51:40

Oh, my God, you are so much more powerful than you think and believe you are you really can create anything. And by anything, I mean, you can create anything wonderful and positive or anything terrible and horrible. Like you have the power of infinite creation. And the more you can tap into that the the more joyful your experience on Earth can be because it can be so painful and hard to live here in this reality.

After you can remember that you are an incredibly powerful creator. That is the way forward when it seems like it’s a really hard place to be because Earth does seem really horrible. It’s it appears as if there’s a lot of things that are terribly wrong. Absolutely. The ultimate reality, they’ll put it rallies all as well. And the more we remember, our power is deliberate creators, the better everything goes in our lives and in the world.

Mostafa Hosseini  52:29

For sure, for sure, calmly this is this has been an absolutely amazing conversation. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for playing with me. By playing if you’re watching or listening to get access to Pamela’s gift to the let me just bring up navigate the soul alignment assessment, click on the link in the comments and the link of the show and you will get there.

do reach out to Pamela and tap into her wisdom and let her get you out of your own misery and your blockages cuz she can do it.

Dr. Pamela Moss  53:01

You just need a little help.

Mostafa Hosseini  53:05

It’s easier when you get help. I mean, you just saw what she did with me. And so if you didn’t see it, go back and watch and listen. And she’s got a beautiful process that I worked with her like a couple of times. Now. And it’s just beautiful.

At that the problem is like you you it’s pretty hard to guide yourself on some inner things because it because it because you’re in the picture. And as long as you’re in the picture is pretty hard to work with the picture. Yeah,

Dr. Pamela Moss  53:36

everybody needs them. We all need each other. Like there’s nobody who can totally do everything by themselves. And that certainly goes for me too. Like when I get stuck and I do get stuck. Sometimes I turned to trusted other people.

Like we were all part of this giant web of light. And we need each other to hold us up and we feel like we’re falling down. And that’s that’s the beauty of it actually, that we’re not alone and we need each other.

Mostafa Hosseini  54:01

Thank you for watching and listening. Please make sure to like and subscribe to the show. And if you have a friend that could benefit from this, please tag them as a comment or share them share the link with them. Adele is asking where’s your show, Dr. Moss? My

Dr. Pamela Moss  54:18

show the blockbuster show that is in this phone guided entrepreneurs Facebook group. And I don’t know have the best to share that I don’t have the name again. It’s called Soul guided entrepreneurs, Soul guided guided

Mostafa Hosseini  54:33

entrepreneurs. Yeah. If they searched for it, are they gonna be able to find it or find it on Facebook? I would think so. Yeah. Yeah. Just search for soul guided entrepreneurs. And it’s a Facebook group, correct? Correct. Yeah. And you’re gonna find it.

Yeah, gang. Thank you for joining us. This has been a great conversation. Pamela. Thank you. You’re listening and watching daily confidence for entrepreneurs and we will see you next week. Bye now.